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    kernel_32 is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default The bartender is interested... how do I close the deal?

    New member, first time poster.

    I'm a good looking guy, mid 30s. I'm the kind of guy girls want to marry. Not a bad boy type, though game has helped me be more comfortable being a bit more arrogant and cocky. It's also helped me be aware of the interest women show in me, which I used to overlook.

    Just started traveling frequently on business to the same small midwestern town. There are a few restaurants I visit where I sit at the bar, have dinner and a drink, and shoot the breeze with the staff and the locals.

    The barmaids took notice of me right away (small town, and I'm the new guy) and are starting to get to know me now, and flirt with me. (Yes, I know they flirt with everyone, but I'm pretty confident that a few of them are giving me ioi's.) I've had a few situations like this in the past where I've gotten ioi's from barmaids or waitresses and asked for their numbers. I've gotten the "I don't give it out to customers" line.

    Does anyone have thoughts about how I can deal with the bargirl's "no customer" defense? I know some of them are intrigued by me, and I need to put them in a position where they can get to know me outside of the bar.

    Thanks.

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    daltonbrayall is offline PUA Forums Respected Contributor
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    Default Re: The bartender is interested... how do I close the deal?

    y3ah thats a tricky one, one that i used to get myself a lot, me and a few guys on here are doing something a lot lately thata ive had pretty good responses to where we just hand the girl our phone and expect them to put their number in and when they asks " whats this for" you reply "whats a phone normaly for? put your number in it." i think you would have good luck with that and if she tries using that line again, and she tries handing you your phone back, dont take it haha.
    If i get a guy some a$$, he gets it for a day; if i teach him how to get it for himself, he's tappin forever

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    kernel_32 is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Re: The bartender is interested... how do I close the deal?

    Quote Originally Posted by daltonbrayall View Post
    y3ah thats a tricky one, one that i used to get myself a lot, me and a few guys on here are doing something a lot lately thata ive had pretty good responses to where we just hand the girl our phone and expect them to put their number in and when they asks " whats this for" you reply "whats a phone normaly for? put your number in it." i think you would have good luck with that and if she tries using that line again, and she tries handing you your phone back, dont take it haha.
    Thanks for this reply. I tried this once. Told the girl, "I understand, a girl's got to have rules" and wrote my number for her. Never heard from her, though she had made a point to tell me all about her family and school, to compliment my clothes and my sense of humor... maybe she was just fishing for a tip, but she was ignoring a lot of other people who would have tipped too. I think just handing her a number is too needy and kills any interest that has been stoked.

    Anybody have a strategy or line that has worked for a number close?

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    daltonbrayall is offline PUA Forums Respected Contributor
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    Default Re: The bartender is interested... how do I close the deal?

    one of my rules is never to give a girl my number, i honestly dont even go for number closes like most guys do, i like to set up a date without exchanging numbers, because once you leave a girls sight, whatever feelings she had for you while you were with her start to fade, and often times she will change her mind about the date, but by not exchanging numbers you ensure that she cant call and cancel, and this could also work very well for you. she doesnt want you to have her number, thats great, dont get it. set up a date instead
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    kernel_32 is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Re: The bartender is interested... how do I close the deal?

    Quote Originally Posted by daltonbrayall View Post
    one of my rules is never to give a girl my number, i honestly dont even go for number closes like most guys do, i like to set up a date without exchanging numbers, because once you leave a girls sight, whatever feelings she had for you while you were with her start to fade, and often times she will change her mind about the date, but by not exchanging numbers you ensure that she cant call and cancel, and this could also work very well for you. she doesnt want you to have her number, thats great, dont get it. set up a date instead
    Good tip. You're right, I don't give a damn about collecting digits, I should change my focus to setting up a meeting.

    The "I don't date customers" reflex may still be there, though.

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    daltonbrayall is offline PUA Forums Respected Contributor
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    Default Re: The bartender is interested... how do I close the deal?

    what you need to do is disqualify that situtation then, talk to her when you arent her customer, or say this "well if you wont date a customer then i guess ive got to stop coming here then" and follow it up with something like "when we go out to dinner on friday i wont be a customer anymore"
    If i get a guy some a$$, he gets it for a day; if i teach him how to get it for himself, he's tappin forever

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    Default Re: The bartender is interested... how do I close the deal?

    Speaking as a bartender, I only use that line when I'm not interested. When I'm interested in a guest I mention something about where I'll be later and how he should check it out.

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    Default Re: The bartender is interested... how do I close the deal?

    yeah, shes right, im speaking as if she is interested. she may not be, and in which case it doesnt hurt to try
    If i get a guy some a$$, he gets it for a day; if i teach him how to get it for himself, he's tappin forever

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    Default Re: The bartender is interested... how do I close the deal?

    One time I handed a barmaid my phone, with the check. I said something to the effect of her putting her number in she called her phone from mine. It was cool.... :-)


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