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    Default How to control your emotions?

    Hello everybody,

    I would like to know how a man can prevent himself from allowing his emotions to runaway or fall deep for a woman? "De-lust" you can say. I did allow my emotions to runaway some years ago, became beta and nearly found myself in a stage of oneitis. Recently, i found myself bit by bit allowing my emotions to runaway and having beta moments. Besides going out with other women, what other words of wisdom you all can give me. Thank you,

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    Default Re: How to control your emotions?

    happens to the best of us, and there is always going to be that one girl that you stick on that you cant get away from. i have that one girl myself and to be completely honest, i dont mind clinging to that. i still date other women and everything but deep down shes always going to be that one ya know? i think its good to have that one to keep you pushing to be better and to have those good memories with so that way, the rest of the girls that you date yo wont get oneitis with because you know shes nowhere near as good as what you had, and you keep striving to find that one thats better than the one that you had and it keeps you from getting oneitis with every girl you start talking to
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    Default Re: How to control your emotions?

    There's nothing wrong with falling for a woman. We are human after all. Just don't become APPROVAL SEEKING. Realize that you will do something she thinks is stupid and if you do, so what!! You can't avoid getting her mad forever. That just sounds ridiculous. Just tell her you love her and to get over it.

    As for controlling your emotions...I don't try to control them. They are much stronger than we think. They come from the part of the brain that some call the "reptilian" and its the oldest part. Millions of evolution have built the frontal cortex blah blah. And you think you can beat millions of years of evolution? Good luck lol. I simply accept my feelings and understand I don't have to act on them. Sometimes I'll just withdraw until I get myself together. But never try to actually change my emotions.

    Ex: If you are in an argument with your woman and are getting progressively angry, just accept that you aren't thinking clearly to make rational judgments. Therefore you should walk away. Don't try to contain and control your anger because you think your conscious mind is stronger than your emotions. That's just silly
    "All things are subject to interpretation. Whichever interpretation prevails at a given time is a function of power and not truth."

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    Default Re: How to control your emotions?

    thanks for that post batman, that makes a lot of sense. i dont usually try to control mine either, not because theres no point in trying but mainly because i have tried and failed too many times to know i cant do it hahaha. but nonetheless you just need to find your own reasoning behind moving on from each girl wether or not its through disqualification or rejection
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    Default Re: How to control your emotions?

    Quote Originally Posted by daltonbrayall View Post
    happens to the best of us, and there is always going to be that one girl that you stick on that you cant get away from. i have that one girl myself and to be completely honest, i dont mind clinging to that. i still date other women and everything but deep down shes always going to be that one ya know? i think its good to have that one to keep you pushing to be better and to have those good memories with so that way, the rest of the girls that you date yo wont get oneitis with because you know shes nowhere near as good as what you had, and you keep striving to find that one thats better than the one that you had and it keeps you from getting oneitis with every girl you start talking to
    Thank you daltonbrayall. I'll start seeing it that way.

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    Default Re: How to control your emotions?

    Quote Originally Posted by BatMan View Post
    There's nothing wrong with falling for a woman. We are human after all. Just don't become APPROVAL SEEKING. Realize that you will do something she thinks is stupid and if you do, so what!! You can't avoid getting her mad forever. That just sounds ridiculous. Just tell her you love her and to get over it.

    As for controlling your emotions...I don't try to control them. They are much stronger than we think. They come from the part of the brain that some call the "reptilian" and its the oldest part. Millions of evolution have built the frontal cortex blah blah. And you think you can beat millions of years of evolution? Good luck lol. I simply accept my feelings and understand I don't have to act on them. Sometimes I'll just withdraw until I get myself together. But never try to actually change my emotions.

    Ex: If you are in an argument with your woman and are getting progressively angry, just accept that you aren't thinking clearly to make rational judgments. Therefore you should walk away. Don't try to contain and control your anger because you think your conscious mind is stronger than your emotions. That's just silly
    Long time Batman. Yes i agree with you on the approval seeking. It tends to come out a bit but i'm glad i made a vast improvement compared to several years ago. Withdraw you mean freezing?

    I think my biggest concern is allowing the emotions to go out of control too early than it suppose to. I know when you already in a relationship you can leave allowances for that to happen but for it to happen even before a relationship starts have me concerned. I agree with you on the anger part.

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    Default Re: How to control your emotions?

    Yea withdraw as in a kind of freezeout. Not so much to punish her though (even though it kind of does), but get yourself together.

    I know what you mean about things happening before a relationship even starts. If you are a very calm and collected type of guy and someone manages to flip your lid constantly early on, then it's probably not worth it. Dey jus crazaay!!
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