Re: Most guys ruin it for the PUAs (Qualification)
I have to jump in this because my current LTR was the same way.
When a woman freaks out because I "fucked up" they usually want to just end it. They feel that it's always going to be like that. So, what I usually do is just say "Fuck this. You want out fine. So do I" is basically my reaction. However, with my current LTR I did something different than I have ever done before.
You have to understand that everyone has an "initial emotional reaction" to stress/conflict in a relationship. People say things they don't mean ALL the time. Once you understand this then you can do what I did with my gf.
I DIDN'T REACT. I didn't take what she said seriously. I just rolled my eyes and said "I'm gonna let you go. I'll talk to you tomorrow." She would proceed to text me some pretty awful things. But I knew she only wanted a reaction out of me since she didn't want to be the only one reacting. So I ignored her til the next day and I then initiated contact with "We need to talk." Then we would take turns talking about how the other one feels. Aftwards we would apologize to each other and then we were fine.
This happened a few times before she began to realize that I'm not going to bail on her just because she acts like a drama queen. That I am a man who is going to be her rock. That when she reacts that way I just downplay and treat her like she is being a drama queen and not add fuel to the fire. Now she has tons of trust with a tiny bit of doubt. Which is how I like it. Always leave alittle bit of doubt
She has trust issues? WHO DOESN'T!! Trust has to be earned. YOU ARE NOT PERFECT AND WILL SCREW UP SOMETIMES. And that's OK. So will she. DO NOT fall into the frame that you screwed up therefore you need to break up or that you need to kiss her ass. That's highschool shit. In fact that's exactly what I told my current gf. "That whole dramatic stuff and bailing out at the first sign of trouble is all highschool shit." You have to downplay and stick it out man. Women are emotional creatures, you know that. You have to look at it like "Damn I probably shouldn't have done/said that. Oh well it's already done. Fuck it."
"All things are subject to interpretation. Whichever interpretation prevails at a given time is a function of power and not truth."