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    aggawam is offline PUA in Training
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    Exclamation Possible GF suggested secks. How to handle situation?

    Hi, this is my first post here. I'm 27, live in Brazil.

    There is this girl, I'm very interested in her as a LTR girlfriend.

    We study together, same class, around 80 students on the same class. Most of the nights I don't even talk to her, just a smile, so we don't stay glued like BFF. And just very few close friends know that we are going out.

    Didn't want to rush things (secks), was letting her talk about that first.

    So it happened...

    After a few dates (first hot dog...lol, then sushi, another sushi, and last date was movies).... we only kissed on those.

    But last friday (03:00am), after poker with friends and a few beers, we did make out on a higher level inside the car (touching our lower parts, with hands inside the pants, her shirt almost out of her, some biting, in front of her parents house, it was crazy). Things were evolving naturally that night until someone came on the street and she said we should stop and skip class someday to do "that".

    So at the moment I was so crazy, I didn't reply choosing a day or anything. I just kept kissing her. And she left the car, it was really late.

    The only thing I texted her (on sunday night) was "Naughtie [her name]"... she replyed... "You took advantage on the fact that I was drunk, you opportunist....laugh s". I replyed her: "We should go out to drink more often". And then she didn't reply. I think that in this moment I lost the chance again of inviting her on another date (secks).

    And during this week I didn't talk or texted her, just smile from distance. I didn't want to be seen as needy.

    Today (almost one week later) I found out that she is sick (flu), through FB. So probably no date this friday. And during the weekend I'll be busy, out of town.

    How do I handle this situation, to keep things hot, although we won't be doing anything until possibly next friday? Should I message her something? Should I risk getting a flu and ask her out tomorrow? lol

    She is reading that 50 shades book (we never talked about it, but I saw her commenting on FB).... I was planning on doing something related to that.... start texting her suggesting we use BDSM technique... a kind of role play.

    What do you think? Is it too fast for that kind of stuff? It would be my first time (I can handle a rope and blindfold), and I think it would be her first time too. But it could take our relationship to the highest level possible.

    I remember on our second date, she said... "you should risk more"... didn't understand what she meant at the moment, I'm very introvert, so I thought she was talking risk in general but maybe was implying secks already. And one other day, she was talking what happened to her last BF, she said... "he didn't take the lead of the relationship". Now things seens to make sense, or I'm misinterpreting it.

    So the 50 shades thing would help correct both the "risk" and the "lead" thing, leaving a really big impression.
    Last edited by aggawam; 10-11-2012 at 12:34 PM. Reason: grammar and added last sentence.

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    Default Re: Possible GF suggested secks. How to handle situation?

    You messed up during the part where you escalated to making out without having a proper plan to close the deal. You should have closed the deal. Now her ASD will kick in and she may not want to meet you. If she goes out with you keep it simple, bounce around couple of venues and FUCK her.Remember she WANTS to fuck you. There will lot of time later for BDSM.

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    Default Re: Possible GF suggested secks. How to handle situation?

    Personally don't text here and arrange it....spontaneous sex is soooooo much better, pull her aside before class some day and tell her 'we are skipping' then take her somewhere and go for it. If she objects to skipping then tell her she 'needs to risk more' just like she did to you and most of all stop over thinking it

    Linking x

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    Default Re: Possible GF suggested secks. How to handle situation?

    threeonethree, thanks for the enlightment about the possible ASD. I didn't expect that happening that night, really wasn't prepared to close.

    linking, I really, really, really like your idea! That can work... it would be amazing. And the defense with "you need to risk more" would fit nicely.

    More info.... I started the make out that night, but she started the touching down there... and as soon as she asked to stop, we went back to kissing only and she suggested "that" for another day.

    And this week she "liked" a FB status from a friend, all try to translate to english:


    "In life and in love, we don't have guarantees... not every person that asks you out is marriageable... not every kiss is due to romance.... and not every good sex relation should be discarded... or to be in love with... or to blame yourself."


    That's a little bit hard to translate.... don't know if it is clear.


    The 50 shades idea was only to use as role play, to exchange messages.... even if we don't do any of that stuff.... just to suggest her and keep things hot through the next days, until I'm back.

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    Default Re: Possible GF suggested secks. How to handle situation?

    To be very honest it sounds like she is really up for it, so just man up and go for it

    Linking x


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