Hi, this is my first post here. I'm 27, live in Brazil.
There is this girl, I'm very interested in her as a LTR girlfriend.
We study together, same class, around 80 students on the same class. Most of the nights I don't even talk to her, just a smile, so we don't stay glued like BFF. And just very few close friends know that we are going out.
Didn't want to rush things (secks), was letting her talk about that first.
So it happened...
After a few dates (first hot dog...lol, then sushi, another sushi, and last date was movies).... we only kissed on those.
But last friday (03:00am), after poker with friends and a few beers, we did make out on a higher level inside the car (touching our lower parts, with hands inside the pants, her shirt almost out of her, some biting, in front of her parents house, it was crazy). Things were evolving naturally that night until someone came on the street and she said we should stop and skip class someday to do "that".
So at the moment I was so crazy, I didn't reply choosing a day or anything. I just kept kissing her. And she left the car, it was really late.
The only thing I texted her (on sunday night) was "Naughtie [her name]"... she replyed... "You took advantage on the fact that I was drunk, you opportunist....laugh s". I replyed her: "We should go out to drink more often". And then she didn't reply. I think that in this moment I lost the chance again of inviting her on another date (secks).
And during this week I didn't talk or texted her, just smile from distance. I didn't want to be seen as needy.
Today (almost one week later) I found out that she is sick (flu), through FB. So probably no date this friday. And during the weekend I'll be busy, out of town.
How do I handle this situation, to keep things hot, although we won't be doing anything until possibly next friday? Should I message her something? Should I risk getting a flu and ask her out tomorrow? lol
She is reading that 50 shades book (we never talked about it, but I saw her commenting on FB).... I was planning on doing something related to that.... start texting her suggesting we use BDSM technique... a kind of role play.
What do you think? Is it too fast for that kind of stuff? It would be my first time (I can handle a rope and blindfold), and I think it would be her first time too. But it could take our relationship to the highest level possible.
I remember on our second date, she said... "you should risk more"... didn't understand what she meant at the moment, I'm very introvert, so I thought she was talking risk in general but maybe was implying secks already. And one other day, she was talking what happened to her last BF, she said... "he didn't take the lead of the relationship". Now things seens to make sense, or I'm misinterpreting it.
So the 50 shades thing would help correct both the "risk" and the "lead" thing, leaving a really big impression.