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Thread: polyamory possible with a hopeful romantic?

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    Default polyamory possible with a hopeful romantic?

    I'm married and want a polyamorous relationship, but my wife is an NDI (hopeful romantic)

    Just the mention of other partners to a woman of this type seems to be like kryptonite. there's a chance of divorce. but dating other women is something i need, and given i don't want to sneak around like a rat, i think asking the question is worth the risk

    obviously at some point i'll have to bite the bullet and talk to her about it, but thought i'd ask if you guys can think of any ways to use the NDI triggers to my advantage in this situation i'd appreciate it!

    thanks,
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    Default Re: polyamory possible with a hopeful romantic?

    I am not familiar with NDI triggers, but I am curious as to why you feel you need this.

    I wouldn't presume to add judgment to a marriage situation since I have never been married myself. However, I like to thing that with my history with women that I have a rough idea of the dynamics of relationships. So how long have you been married?
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    Default Re: polyamory possible with a hopeful romantic?

    I want it for the same reason you would want to be a PUA i guess

    women are amazing, i love my relationships with them, and want to be intimate with more women

    our marriage is based on certain connections and shared goals that i won't bore you with, but there are other types of sexual and romantic attachment out there. i want to explore these, and have been meeting a lot of women lately who could be more than friends

    we only got married this year, but have been together a few years now

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    Default Re: polyamory possible with a hopeful romantic?

    Quote Originally Posted by Topspin View Post
    I'm married and want a polyamorous relationship, but my wife is an NDI (hopeful romantic)

    Just the mention of other partners to a woman of this type seems to be like kryptonite. there's a chance of divorce. but dating other women is something i need, and given i don't want to sneak around like a rat, i think asking the question is worth the risk

    obviously at some point i'll have to bite the bullet and talk to her about it, but thought i'd ask if you guys can think of any ways to use the NDI triggers to my advantage in this situation i'd appreciate it!

    thanks,
    TS
    there is a pdf that comes with the system about getting a threesome with all the types isn't there?
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    Default Re: polyamory possible with a hopeful romantic?

    Managing multiple LTRs is kinda my thing, but They've only ever worked from the beginning

    I've tried reverting to MLTR after dating for a while, say a relationship for a year - "lets go back to just dating for a while, etc,", but they have all invariably failed. No - blown up is a better term

    Girls see relationships and assumptions differently, and after you've shared so much intimate time and she sees you as her man, the thought of someone else with you is going to blow open an emotional floodgate from her that will wreak havok on your marriage

    I'm sorry to say but I honestly think you need to make a choice, your marriage, or other women?
    Last edited by The Red Baron; 10-12-2012 at 08:37 AM. Reason: Correction
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