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    Default Txt advice really needed

    I've been out with this HB9 twice. Both times ended up making out and that's about it. She is a bit bitchy, really intelligent and kind of up tight. Have been going back and forth with texts which have been good at times but ran into a problem last nite. Need some help with an exchange on where to go from here. Give it a few days or send something to reset? I'm very close to that edge where if I say the wrong thing she may say "you know what we are nothing alike" because we are somewhat opposites.

    her
    Oh please you're the one who never drops the smart and serious jokes
    me
    I don't know if I could hang with someone so smart...but you do have such a nice booty!
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    I'm really torn
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    Every time you make that same type of joke, it really only reminds me of a) when people used to make fun of me for the same stupid shit in 3rd grade, and b) apparently smart isn't your thing.
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    I like your honest response. It's great because most girls aren't that straight forward.
    her
    Yeah well I get really honest when I'm annoyed
    me
    You have a really interesting mix of feistiness, sweetness and an almost businesslike honesty. Quite something

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    Default Re: Txt advice really needed

    Yea that was a pretty bad exchange, but I think you still have a good chance. I LOVE the smart ones. They are all logic and their thoughts are built brick for brick. So it's very easy to confuse them with mixed signals since they really try to make sense of them, which further invests them into you the more they judge you. Juggler says that every judgement is a committment. So you WANT her to judge you on all the mixed signals you are going to give her.

    The last message, "You have a really interesting mix of feistiness, sweetness and an almost businesslike honesty. Quite something" was good. However, it just feels like it was coming from a place of weakness rather than power.

    Do not be intimidated by her intelligence or that she is a 9. Like I said there is something giddly easy about the intelligent ones. I want you to focus on ALL push/pull and qualification mixed together. Say things like "You are so unique in your intelligence, but is overshadowed with your arrogance." She will most likely get defensive, but WHO CARES!! She will still likely feel the stab of that statement and after a few more of those will start the seek your validation. Push pull back and forth like an accordian. The more you push then pull the more tension will build up til it explodes and she jumps your bones.

    Use push/pull with your body to. Tell her "Hey let me call you right back. Something came up that I have to handle" (words). If she asks what, tell her "Ok now you're getting too personal." Then do not call her for several hours or even until the next day (body). When you call back say "Wow that took longer than I thought. Sorry about that. Now tell me exactly what you said you were going to do to me?" (obviously she didn't say anything of the sort lol. But it will get a laugh)
    "All things are subject to interpretation. Whichever interpretation prevails at a given time is a function of power and not truth."

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    Default Re: Txt advice really needed

    Thanks a lot for the info. How would you go about the next text to reengage her? I feel like it's a very delicate situation I don't want to push her off the cliff. The push and pull I understand and all the stuff that you said in the post. I'm definitely going to put that to use I'm just wondering about how I should proceed at this moment texting her or even giving it a few days.

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    Give it a few days then text her with a facebook post text. Something that happened in your day that you just had to share with her. Or something that reminded you of her. This gives you a REASON to text her rather than hit her up with "Hey how you doing?"
    "All things are subject to interpretation. Whichever interpretation prevails at a given time is a function of power and not truth."

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    Default Re: Txt advice really needed

    I tend to use a little too much teasing and humor. I probably could use more push and pull and qualifiers because she did respond to them when I used it earlier in our texts and conversations. I think I really hit a sore spot about the smart thing because she defines herself with that. Also I'm just learning about frames and still need work in that department.

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    Default Re: Txt advice really needed

    Frame control takes awhile. But one day it will just click. Then you realize that NO ONE can get over on you. You start to ignore what people are saying and pay attention to things like "Who's frame is it? Do I like this frame? I'm changing this frame."

    It is possible to overdo the teasing, but I'd rather have woman that was mad at me than one that didn't care. That hurts even more to know that you have no affect on her.
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    Default Re: Txt advice really needed

    One other question is I may see this girl out tomorrow. How should I approach it if we see each other. I know I'm asking a bunch of questions but trying to cover all avenues.

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    Default Re: Txt advice really needed

    I would keep going. Tease her. "Hey smarty pants" or something. When she gets frustrated respond with "Hey didn't you learn in elementary that when someone teases you it means they like you? Maybe you're not as smart as you think." Just have fun with her. Make no apologies. If you aren't sure how to respond to something just shrug your shoulders as if to say "I've got nothing." Then change the subject.
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    Me : You have such a unique intelligence but it's sad your arrogance gets in the way
    Her: UHF ok Uhm*
    Her: I'm not going to try and have the last word on this. Good luck with everything.
    Me: Didn't you learn that in school that guys that like you tease you like you, maybe you're not as smart as you think!
    Her: Ok. Good luck with everything

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    Default Re: Txt advice really needed

    Whoah bummer. What was the convo before that caused you to tell her that? Or did you come out of nowhere with that? Like I said she would likely get defensive, but she will still feel it. Contact her in a day or two about something unrelated.
    "All things are subject to interpretation. Whichever interpretation prevails at a given time is a function of power and not truth."


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