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    Default Re: Need Expert Advice from Experts on this girl very interesting

    I do believe so ... I should arrange a outdoor activity maybe next weekend we can go to a park and talk a whole bunch there

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    Default Re: Need Expert Advice from Experts on this girl very interesting

    I have to jump in this to give a different perspective. I agree with Meteora's advice. It's good to build rapport and reveal a vulnerability of yours to help build that connection and go further. So I'm just going to add another element into this. Which is the frame.

    She has set the frame that she has trust issues. If you read the quote below my reponse about things being a result of power and not truth, it basically means that it doesn't matter who is right or wrong, but who has a stronger frame. You have accepted that her trust issues are REAL and TANGIBLE. She may have been hurt before, but WHO HASN'T? I firmly believe that whatever you put your focus on you give it power. Allowing her to draw so much attention to her trust issues only reinforces their power. I know a lot of women do this and I am a victim of falling into their frame by accepting that. It was only when I started to introduce to them first, that I instead had trust issues, did the women actually started to do things to earn MY trust. Who says she has to set the rules in such a way? You simply need a stronger frame than her.

    Her issues are common and are a part of life. Where comes love, comes hurt. It's never going to stop or go away. She needs to grow up and accept this. You need to downplay her frame that "this isn't highschool anymore." You are both grown adults and should understand this.

    Do not let her lead the relationship. You set the rules. You set the tone. She is in YOUR world, and in your world everyone has fun and is carefree. Basically tell her to "lighten up." That life is too short to beat herself up for past mistakes and it's time to take chances. Set up the frame that she is missing out on many opportunities by being such an "eeyore." Make it light and fun and after some time she will accept your frame and she WILL open up to you because she will realize she is being way too serious about something that everyone goes through.

    Her issues may have some ground and have good reasons for having trust issues, but again...it's not about who is right or wrong, but who has more conviction.
    "All things are subject to interpretation. Whichever interpretation prevails at a given time is a function of power and not truth."

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    Default Re: Need Expert Advice from Experts on this girl very interesting

    wow props man I totally did not think of it that way(PUA noob obviousllyy..). I always did tell her to lighten up a bit and learn to enjoy life and explained to her my issues how I used to trust people and they brought me down and you cant worry bout that all the time. But yes I will have to lead

    Reps++ Batman excellent post thanks!

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    Default Re: Need Expert Advice from Experts on this girl very interesting

    I have another question and this will be interesting..If I feel Im losing the sparkle and luster with her and she is not being as receptive as before and playful(we see each other almost couple times a week for maybe a hour or two in university) should I initiate a freeze-out with her and then try again? Maybe Im being AFC and not considering it could be her immense workload and her schedule that's taking a toll on her(because that is true).

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    Default Re: Need Expert Advice from Experts on this girl very interesting

    freezing her out would be the worst thing you could do to make her more playful with you, odds are you are slacking in the flirting department, weather you realize it or not, you especialy need to flirt with her in the comfort stage, it will make the difference between getting friendzoned and getting laid

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    Default Re: Need Expert Advice from Experts on this girl very interesting

    all I have to say : ^this . Upped it today and really rekindled the connection texted her a picture and short message and it really hit the sweet spot

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    Default Re: Need Expert Advice from Experts on this girl very interesting

    you know guys I feel really topsy turvy when I post I feel like for some reason something is missing. I honestly believe that I could be in a limbo period because I dont see her same receptiveness as first couple weeks I met her. I am continuing upping my flirting game looks like flirting is not gonna work but I will have to ask her to join me in some activity/event before I become a PUA AFC lol.

    I think she is also Sh1t testing me as well when I added her on Facebook but least of my concerns . Do you think that overall she is trying to Sh1t test me ?

    P.S I also have to thank you guys for helping me on this

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    Default Re: Need Expert Advice from Experts on this girl very interesting

    girls give out sh!t tests all the time, if you've made it to the comfort stage you have already passed many sh!t tests, however, if she is freezing you out, its not a sh!t test,its an iod. you may have acciddently dlv'd a couple times without even realizing it. girls are very subtle in the ways they go about doing things, for all you know there could be an external factor thats not in your control like her seeing multiple men (yes most girls see multiple guys until they become very committed to one) or possibly family problems, work problems, anything in her life that might make her less receptive to your flirting. just hang in there and keep flirting. you'll either make progress or get friendzoned

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    Default Re: Need Expert Advice from Experts on this girl very interesting

    thanks meteora your posts always seem to shed light on my troubles. Ill stick with your advice and see how it goes in the coming weeks and months

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    Default Re: Need Expert Advice from Experts on this girl very interesting

    its great to here that i have a fan xD just doin what i do best, i guess keep me posted, if you have any questions feel free to pm me


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