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    Default Coffee Twice... Now What?

    So I've had some trouble getting this girl to meet up with me. Over texting, I finally managed to have her meet me for coffee (she doesn't seem to want to date). We met for coffee and again the following week. But now I've seem to hit a dead end and I'm thinking it's because she has me in the Friendzone because of the coffee meetings....
    What do I do to turn up the heat? All suggestions are welcome!

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    Default Re: Coffee Twice... Now What?

    up the ante, take her for a drink in the evening instead, make it clear your not her 'friend' do this by upping the kino and flirting a lot. lots of people on here seem to have like 2 meets and not have k closed the reason you are risking friendzone 'is because she is thinking....what is going on? :L just takes a bit of guts look at it this way, if she has agreed to meet you there must be some attraction there

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    Default Re: Coffee Twice... Now What?

    Men, we need to value our time more then we value women. This isn't to say women are not valuable. But who are we to believe in something so illogical, as men we should realize that without our time(life), we would not even be able to pursue women, but only our mother who gave us life. Why do we think we should prioritize them over our time(life) unless she is the one who gives me/my children life. Man is Sovereignty.

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    Default Re: Coffee Twice... Now What?

    Thanks for the replies. Good point on using the Friendship zone to my advantage. There is a positive there, but being impatient me I want to get out of friendzone immediately!

    You're right, Kino is the key! Tough Kino when sitting at opposite sides of a table...

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    Default Re: Coffee Twice... Now What?

    Suggestions as to what I should text this girl to get her to meet me for a drink instead of coffee?

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    Default Re: Coffee Twice... Now What?

    Text her and get her in an inspired state first so she is more receptive to say yes. Make sure it's in the evening - either a casual drink or bite to eat. Say it will be a 'quick bite' or 'quick drink'. Make it an attractive offer 'I know this fabulous cafe, great ambience and delicious food' you could also pull her in by saying you want to celebrate something (pay rise, won a project, won a match) something that highlights your virtues whilst at the same time takes some pressure off her. Make sure you kino and engineer it so you are going to kiss her either way. Keep escalating. If she rejects, freeze out.

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    Default Re: Coffee Twice... Now What?

    Why are you sitting opposite and not next to her? This ain't an 80's movie lol. Seems like you're still trying to come under the radar with your interest in her. And two meet ups with no kiss close is trouble. Very high risk of being friendzoned. Take these guys advice about the kino. It'll help a ton.
    "All things are subject to interpretation. Whichever interpretation prevails at a given time is a function of power and not truth."

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    Default Re: Coffee Twice... Now What?

    Quote Originally Posted by BatMan View Post
    Why are you sitting opposite and not next to her?
    Good advice. If you are put at a 4 person table sit to her left or right. If you can get a booth, sit next to her and get close. If you're at a bar you can arrange your position casually. Sitting opposite someone is not a huge liability but other ways of hanging out more intimately but casualy at the same time can help open a girl up. Next date aim for a kiss and dont take no for an answer. If she absolutely refuses delete her from your phone. Ive been doing quite a bit of deleting from my phone lately, trimming the heard, and its amazing how many start chasing. I even deleted some girls off a chat application so they knew I had deleted them. It drove them nuts 'why you delete me???' I would write back a bunch of different things. 'Oh I didnt notice I had deleted you' 'Oh I didnt think you were very chatty' 'I didn't think you wanted to chat with me' etc etc. Suddenly they are chasing hard and dont want to let that happen again. Any other guys infactuated by her would simply not do that.

    So dont be afraid to walk away or make yourself unobtainable. Dont be afraid to say things like 'Ive been having lots of sex lately, I need a break and some time to myself' or white lie about a 'girlfriend' you have. A lot of lonely women out there. Go and get them.

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    Default Re: Coffee Twice... Now What?

    Trick for you mate. If you are on the opposite side of the table move over to her side with the excuse that 'you want to people watch' gives you an excuse to move round and to kino as you can grab her hand or put your hand on her leg as you point out people and whisper about them

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    Default Re: Coffee Twice... Now What?

    Great idea to get close! I would find it awkward to sit on the same side without and excuse... This gives me a great excuse!


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