Hey guys, new to the forums but have been using Pandora's Box for a while, have quite the Seductress on my hands (TJR). She is very open with discussing her other suitors with me, and I know she loves the attention having just come out of a bad long term relationship breakup.
Now for the backstory, we met through some mutual friends while drinking when I was on vacation. Hit it off, had chemistry from the start. Made out some that night, but she ended up getting sick and I went home with another girl. She immediately started texting me the following day, and we have been doing so pretty much non-stop for the last 4 months. (we live 4000 miles apart...for now.) Found out we have a ton in common, lots of sexual talk and tension, great conversation about work as well. Make a deal to keep it casual.
2 Months after meeting she invites me on a short weekend vacation with her, and I oblige. We have an incredible time together, and the sex as expected turns out to be fantastic. Things start to get more intense. We schedule a follow-up visit for this weekend, both trying to keep things very casual, but feelings start creeping in and being discussed on both sides. Still lots of sex talk, but the feelings chit chat starts to get super intense. Ive been overly nice to her, although I knew it was a mistake (lots of compliments, small but thoughtful gifts, etc.). She shows up this weekend and is pretty jetlagged from her day of travelling, and she is cold by nature of course (in person at least) being a Seductress, I don't think too much of it. We have sex later in the night and again, fantastic (Think simultaneous orgasm). The next day I notice she's a little distant and not interested in sex (ie. making excuses). I call her out on it and she tells me that she doesn't want to anymore because she is a girl and doesn't want to get attached, she is "self-preserving" so no one gets hurt when we see other people. (Spoiler alert: She is moving into my place next week with the aforementioned mutual friends, something that was in the works before we had ever met). I continue to play it cool all weekend, acting unphased by it and continuing to have fun except for one slipup. While out socializing I notice her on her phone texting and visibly upset. I lean in and let her know I wasn't impressed by that, and she attempted to warm up to me and hold my hand which I refused.
It was a little awkward of course, but I'm quite confident that if I push the issue and try to discuss it again it will totally turn her off. She texted me when she got home and I played it cool, keeping it brief for a couple of messages and then ignoring her. After not responding she posts on my Facebook wall thanking me for a great weekend. (I assume to keep me orbiting and mark territory at the same time).
Any ideas of where to go next? I'll have no issue playing it cool and talking to her in ways a Seductress likes (ie. appealing to the career-centred independant woman) but I am a little hesitant to mention anything sexual after that conversation. It's only been a few months and although non-commital we both acknowledge there's something good here, that I'd like to continue to pursue.
Thanks in advance! Look forward to participating in these forums, have had a lot of personal experiences both good and bad over the last decade or so (Surprisingly most starting successfully and ending terribly, I'm a good closer but seemingly terrible at keeping them interested long-term)