My girlfriend broke up with me 5 weeks ago (i will post that problem in another thread) and just entered the PUA's world 2 weeks ago by reading The Mystery Method and then The Game (Strauss). I was very skeptical at the begining, but after being an AFC my whole life and after blewing up my 2yr relationship i had nothing to lose. I want to be very specific on the story so it's going to be a long script, sry guys.
Everything started when I moved here to Mexico City to finish med-school 5 weeks ago (broke up right before that); while devastated, I ended up re-encountering with my highschool crush (she works here) the one that cast me out to the deepest level of the friendzone and turned me into an AFC for the next 7 years of my life (now I'm 23). This woman is my real problem, it's always been, she bacame a real frustration in my life, and this post is about her, how I PUA'd the shit out of her, but then AFC'd again.
After 3 weeks living here, chit-chating in facebook and txt messages, she invited me to hang-out with her and her friends on a friday night (mostly guys and 2 unatractive female co-workers) so I invited a dude from school just in case i bored myself to death. Is realy important to notice that in this point I was still sad for my breakup and seeking any female attention. The night went through, we were all drunk and all the guys were onto her and I really wasn't trying anything because of my past failures with her and because at the moment we were "Just Friends". The hours kept flowing and we ended up just being there in the club her, my friend and I (and about 10 more couples). She started dance-flirting with me out of the blew and I just thought it was the alcohol working; we started dancing really dirty but nothing excited happened. We went to her place because she was tired but my friend and I both crashed her couch and didn't thought about making a move or if being invited to her place meant something.
The next day my friend apologized to me, saying that he was sorry for cockblocking me but he needed a place to crash. He kept talking on and on about how she was so into me, making pasts at me, etc; but i couln't see it. He recomended me to read The Mystery Method and more importantly The Game, he sent me the PDFs and just devoured the whole thing in 2 days, memorized the whole Mystery method, IOI's and strategies, more because I identified with the character than really thinking it was going to work.
I decided to test it out the next weekend with her... my crush just became my TARGET. Turns out it was her birthday and was having a small get-together at her place. I started playing the minute she opened the door, waving with a big smile, a black unbuttoned shirt, acting a little tipsy, peacocking with everybody there (even the guys).... I ended up knowing some of them (friends of a friend from college, former soccer teamates, and a friend's ex-girlfriend) It was kindof like Highschool/College reuinion there so I thought it would be hard, but i was wrong... it became way more easier because it was more simple to become the center of attention. I started ignoring her for almost 1 hour, talking to everybody but her, then I poured some tequila shots and started making toasts (I acted as I forgot to serve her a shot, but having an extra over there) that's when i started Neg-ing her a lot and she gave me an explanation for every single one of the Neg's as if she had to justify herself to me. I was gaining some power. Told her that her legs looked kinda fat with that dress (said she actually gained 5 pounds in the last 3 weeks), then about her frizzy hair (and made up some crappy stylist excuse), always flirting with me being more touchy than usual. We moved the party to a club and i just ignored her the minute we arrived, but to be honest it wasn't out of strategy but because I was tired of playing the whole method and still watch her dance with 3 guys at a time.
I begun to losen my grip on the situation, and started dancing with her female friends out of confort and dispair (also i was kindof drunk) but it seemed i was still in the game! She jumped right to me, grabbed me from the chest and begged "save me from this stoodges!".... I said that i promised her girl friends to dance with them and I would just save her in a momment, she just laughed out loud in a nervous kind of way (she actually din't want to hang out with the other guys anymore). I continued my game, following the method step by step. We returned to her place, everybody (2 girls, 4 guys, her, my friend and I)... i was laying my friend down again in her couch, he was passing out and was being my wingman without noticing because he opened and easy way for staying the night at her apartment again. She had a flight to her hometown the next day so she started dispatching everybody rapidly, because she genuinely wanted to sleep. I went to the bathroom knowing that she hasn't the balls to sent me and my passed-out friend to the street at 5.00 am. Wen i come out she was already in her room grabbing some blankets for us, but i went to the kitchen poured me a glass of water and pretended not listening to her bla-bla about her trip. She came to the kitchen, handed her the glass of water and offered her a back massage (because she looked stressed I pleged)... I was trying some Kino and k/f-closing with the Massage Routine, and it worked like a charm... I started breathing out loud above her shoulder, whispering her name at the back of her ears while massaging her neck and upper back, she whispered something back but i didn't catch it, and when I found the right angle i kissed her and started to make out in the kitchen for like 20 min, then i managed to get the action to her bedroom pledging our confidence and that i was a gentleman (i was just going with the flow, not really thinking about a method or anything)... we ended up Hj/Bj to eachother and fucking like champions, the whole act lasted like 4 hours or so, we came several times, talked about our past, she cried about some recent ex-boyfriend shit (she fucked with him 3 nights before), we fucked once, and then cuddled a lot. She accepted how much she desired me the whole time, and how my lack of balls kept her from letting me achieve something with her. I came out to her, and accepted the feelings that I ONCE HAD FOR HER (note: ONCE HAD). We kept cuddling till it was time for me to go at 9.00am, we kissed good-bye, she tried to convinced me that it was a ONS and asked me to keep it a secret and not brag about it with our common friends (I agreed) and the left her appartment, she seemed quite OK about the whole thing and wasn't really freaking out.
This is where everything flips out. I managed the weekend fine, fucking with my whole-life crush boosted up my selfsteem, but then monday came in and tried to contact her (passed like 60 hours since I left her apartment). I asked her some general shit on a txt message, she didn't reply. Then on wednesday i tipped her off with a txt that i was going to call her later, she didn't reply neither pick-up my calls. On thursday I lost it completely and sent a lot of texts an AFC would send, mentioning our years-lasted friendship and if she cared about that, and when would she return my calls. I was lost again. I didn't know how to manage expectations and was on the start-point again.
My core questions are...
1- Would you give me general advice on my Game?? I really want to improve and keep playing with other girls.
2- Is it really over with my Target? I fucked things up so much I couldn't do something about it? I would like to k/f-close again at least once.
3- If it's over with her, could you tell me a strategy to really fuck her mind, a good mindfuck that would really confuse her a lot or open me the way to f-close again?
Thank you, guys, i'd appreciate any good advice!!