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    Default How the hell did I end up in the Friend Zone!?

    Hey guys,
    Another much asked question about the dreaded friend zone.

    Before I start I know that the friend zone is usually by being a wuss, creating too much comfort etc so I'd understand if I'd made it there like that... but this isn't the case!

    So I met this girl in a bar, usual way, throwing a neg about her being a loner with a load of cats etc... hit it off really well, K Closed on the night etc... Now... I'm going travelling at the end of the year and told her that - initially she rolled off but it spiked her attraction. Number closed etc... texted back and forth and arranged to grab a meal.

    The meal went awesome, I was giving as much comfort as I was busting on her, she was getting attracted, I escalated, K Closed her for about 30 mins on the way home (she was all cuddling up to me and shit saying how nice it was to cuddle me...) and arranged a day 3. It was so ON! She gets in that night and texts me "thanks for a lovely night", so I chucked one back, "me too, bring on the next time..." - a bit weak but it was so on I thought I was unstoppable.

    So the next day I chuck her a text giving a statement about my day at work (notice no question), nothing back until the evening when I get "hey, so I've been thinking all day, and I've decided I want to be friends. Sorry for wasting your time. Xx"

    What in the utter f***!!! I'm thinking it may be because I'm going travelling for an unconfirmed amount of time... not really sure how to pursue this one any further? I'm thinking Freeze out and walk away... if she comes back then it's good to go etc

    Any thoughts on what happened?! Women make no sense.

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    Default Re: How the hell did I end up in the Friend Zone!?

    Well where I feel you messed up was when you were kissing her for 30 mins that was your moment to f close her and you didnít for whatever reason. So since you did not take the lead, she assumed you were either not interested or a wuss not to, and that is how you ended up in the friend zone. Now itís not impossible to out and try to f close her again but it will take some work my friend, and that is to get her to see that you are not a wuss and you are interested. Try to use the Triangle technique to get out of the friendzone and get another date and when you do donít hold back and just keep moving forward.

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    Default Re: How the hell did I end up in the Friend Zone!?

    Sounds good... but not sure what to even to reply to the LJBF text!

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    Default Re: How the hell did I end up in the Friend Zone!?

    That's definitely a crappy situation.... (I know from experience!)

    I've had the same thing happen with me a couple times.
    It could have something to do with what flyer1 brought up, as far as not pushing further ahead....

    But there are also numerous other factors that could be at play. (Including a sh1t test to see if you're persistent)

    Remember, girls are emotional creatures by nature.... so they tend to react to the moment at hand, based on how they feel at that particular time.

    Something I've done in the past, was to be very understanding & respectful.
    I sent the girl a text like, "Heya, I appreciate you being up front with me about this, so thank you! But you DIDN'T waste my time.. you're pretty darn cool. "

    After a couple back & forth texts about the situation, & agreeing to keep the "friendship" current/active so to speak, I kept flirting with her...Just a little bit here & there, to keep pushing those buttons.

    Then, I was able to escalate enough to get the conversation to a sexual level after a couple weeks.

    Don't "text bomb" her, but definitely check in every couple days & be the same fun, flirty, happy, positive, confident guy that you were.
    It shouldn't take long for her to realize how much different you are from the rest of the chumps.



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