So a female friend of mine wants me to help her on her game. 95% of what I've learned is from the male perspective. I'd like to pull together something like a female introduction to game and how to pick up guys, and I'd like your thoughts as guys who understand the pickup process. She is part of the community of PUAs here but relatively inexperienced still
She's a cute girl but not from here, somewhat conservative atmosphere but really nice
After some though this is what I emailed her. (oh - when I reference the "game day", that was a big event we had for the PUA community where we trained on a few topics then used them in the field)
"Right now these are thoughts, I've been brainstorming a bit but I think it's in the right direction
So, game is definitely different for a girl than a guy.
You really don't have to open with anything more than "Hi, how are you doing today?"
Guys will be receptive and friendly to you saying hello. After that we can talk about the elements of game you can incorporate -
First and foremost, a girl needs to understand how to flirt. The IOIs I talked briefly on at our game day are applicable here. As PUAs we learn to look for IOIs as a sign a girl is interested in us. You can take this and use them intentionally as a way to flirt with a guy. Here's an excerpt of examples I look for, taken from my notes from the game day
They hold their gaze
They look back a few seconds after they look away
Watch their shoulders and which way they point (from center of chest)
Preening (personal grooming, fixing your clothes, etc) = interest
Sitting forward*/ leaning closer to you
They touch you
They ask questions
Any question that begins with “So….” (shows an effort to continue the conversation)
They ask your name
Laughs at vague jokes
She gives you a nickname
She introduces you
You catch sideways glances (like you’re not supposed to see)
Ok on a related note, you can always use your body language to come across more confident and more attractive. Stand up straight, smile, head up.
Smiling is always important.
A girl wants to give the impression she is hard to get, like "high value", but be friendly and flirtatious. Then when you show IOIs to your target they will be much more interested because you are showing them interest even though you are high value and could choose many other people
Also important to this is the idea of Kino - aka touch. Use it liberally, it makes you more friendly and makes people interested in you. Here's a link to a guide I posted on it, this would be vital to female game
Ok, now back to the idea of a girl being high value. One of the things us guys do is to "qualify" a girl, this, in a sense is to show we are actually trying to find a valuable target with something going for her, or a target that possesses certain traits we look for. This separates us from every other guy hitting on a girl just because she is pretty. As a girl, you can use this wonderfully. If you set a bar for a guy, he will try to meet your standards. Here's another guide I posted about using qualifiers.
Both of these guides are written to guys, but the concepts discussed in them should be pretty adaptable for you.
Take a look over this and we can talk about your thoughts on them or any other questions tomorrow, and more this weekend if you want to talk one on one
So for now,as best I can summarize a "girls starter guide" to PUA
Learn how to deliberately use your flirting, including body language and eye contact to your advantage
Qualify a guy
Oh and a final note - everything I discussed on peacock applies to a girl too. Actually easier, you can wear what you want to get noticed. You will get noticed and no one ever second guesses it for a girl, you have much more liberal fashion standards
So 2 questions-
first, what would you guys change, what do you like / not like, think works / doesn't, agree with / disagree
Second - how can I teach her to flirt better? She asked in a follow up and I told her to work on kino, laughing and smiling, and using open receptive body language
But I feel like I should offer much better advice, just not sure how yet