Okay this is the same target from this thread : http://www.puaforums.com/ask-expert/...uni-class.html
The reason I've started an new thread is because I feel that the last thread is far too convoluted. But to quickly summaries it:
In case you can don't want to read the last thread, essentially three weeks I spoke to this HB8 French. Within four hours I got in to her home, but unfortunately had to leave for the train. Then a week later I got her in to my room but failed to escalate ( I doubted myself), didn't even kiss her . Then last week Monday 8th I went to her home, but more for business, needed to discuss something with her roommate. Yet I hung around for a bit and so did she plus she walked me to the door. We scheduled a date to meet up but she fell ill thus it didn't happen the 10th Wednesday.
So a week later....
16th Tuesday I said to her (face to face)
Me :Tomorrow 16:16 I'll see you
HB8: Text me
Me: No I'll see you
HB8: Text me
Me: I won't text, I will see you. 16:16 outside of this building.
So Wednesday came and the truth of the matter was that in the morning I figured that she wouldn't turn up, ( I rang another girl to take her place, I was pretty confident in the prediction). So I was right at around 14:30pm she sent me a text saying
HB8: "Do we have to meet today cause I woke up really late and I haven't been to the studio yet I'm going to go in 15:30. What did you want to do?"
(an hour and a half later)
Me : Okay, the best time of your life
(2 hours later)
[Here's what I figured out, she did really wake up because the night before she was having a girls drinking party.]
I didn't reply to this, I probably should have. But generally speaking I never reply to one character or one word text messages. What I should have done here is sent a short text message making her feel like she missed out on something fantastic (and she did).
So on Thursday 18th, when I saw her I wasn't mad or upset. I said hi to her but just spoke to her less. In fact I think I only exchanged a two sentences.
So on the 20th Saturday, around 22:00 because I felt like it. I sent a text saying:
Me: "I'm going to drag you out of your house tomorrow. So make sure you wake up. No excuses." (From my side I sent this text, to just confirm a few things)
(Hour and half later)
HB8: No thanks
(A possibility of her saying "No" could also be that I used the words "Wake up" for a Sunday, generally speaking 'normal' students wake up at past 12:00pm on a Sunday...Such a waste of time, so many interesting woman are awake on a Sunday morning/afternoon)
Now I'm slightly unsure as to what to do? I do know this though, with this woman to get her to be alone with me, I must be last minute. I mean extremely last minute. When I do it I must give her no chance for her to voice her opinion. Planning does not work with this woman and the fact of the matter is that she does not deserve my effort to plan.
I feel that she has become less attracted to me and perhaps less comfortable. I need to build attraction and flirt with her. My advances may have to be stronger.
Also I should have mentioned this before, I'm 19 and she's 25. So I believe that I must be more direct with this HB8 since she may see me as 'child' due to a mistake I made before; I laughed at this engagement prank her friend showed me and I said that "I would totally do that" as a joke though. Unfortunately I don't think she understood that I was joking (she's foreign) this happened when I visited her housemate for business.
Anyway that's as much as I can remember, what do you think so far? How do I proceed? Should I reply to the No thanks text message, if so what? I'm thinking on Monday, if I end up walking back with her, to just get her back to my place without giving her a chance and just cook with her.
Also I would like to apologies to The Red Baron, it was rude of me not reply to him when he read through all of the convoluted nonsense. Also thanks for the advice.
Oh I would like to add this on, I feel that because I didn't take the opportunity to escalate in to a kiss or further, she sees me slight pansy and that I'm too young for her hence why I want to be more direct and stronger. Also she seems to want someone who is invested in the relationship, so persistence may be the key here.