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Thread: The Disaster - Did i mess up too far? Is there a way to recover?

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    Exclamation The Disaster - Did i mess up too far? Is there a way to recover?

    TLong story short, girl knows I was interested in her asked her if she also interested said yes. Here is the disaster of text messages I sent when I was high.

    Me: Hey you just popped into my mind, now plz stay out.

    Her :O How rude!!! Lol

    Me: Forget to tell you yesterday but you really pretty with mascara yesterday B-)

    Her: Aw thanks u noticed lol

    Me: Man half the time when I actually want to talk to you , all the coworkers join..

    Her: Lol they just love me joking! Yea alex was following me today lol.. Until he got mad at mike lol

    Her: If u want to talk u should just talk

    Me: alex was trying to help me out :-D aha I didn't want people at work knowing that we're interested since it can jeopardize our job.

    Her: Oh so now I get why alex was doing that

    Me: Just wanted to let you know are a really good listener. I'm so used to people just waiting for their turn to talk. But you make me feel like you're REALLY listening but

    Her: I do listen but when I'm mad I talk a lot

    Her: thank you

    Her:

    Me: But I like you but your too much of a nice girl for me

    Her: Lol are u a bad ass?

    Me: Lol I have heard things along that side, also ur a chaser don't be scared you can come talk to me also :-D

    Her: Heard from who lol?

    Her: I talk to you lol

    Me: Haha! anyways I feel like we have a lot in common and I want to know you better so I am going to ask you out on a date tomorrow

    Her: You're letting me know in advance ! I'm curious who you heard these things from lol

    Her: Tell me please

    Me: Lol Heard what things from? :S

    Her: U said u heard things lol

    Her: U just said it before

    Me: People in our crew especially the girls, see me as dick/ahole lol :'(

    Her: No I don't think they do

    Me: Lol hey I ask every girl this question, when did you first realize that I liked you?

    Her: Ummm maybe he beginning of the month.. Some time around there I think lol



    LOL GET READY TO READ THE ULTIMATE AFC TEXT HERE IT IS AND SHE HASNT EVEN REPLIED TO IT...

    ME: Lol I would like to conclude this very deep conversation by saying that I know your have been lied too or people haven't been truthful and hurt you but I am not that type of guy, and I actually do care and value when I like someone B-)


    Lol.... go easy on me guys, I wanna know how I can bounce back from this disaster
    Or any advice how I can clutch this.

    Note to self: never get high and text girls lol.

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    Default Re: The Disaster - Did i mess up too far? Is there a way to recover?

    Lol based on no replies it sounds like I can't fix this, anyways if you can help a brother out I'll appreciate it.

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    Default Re: The Disaster - Did i mess up too far? Is there a way to recover?

    yeah it was aaaaall afc, i suggest freeze out but i don't guarantee anything
    "The world will never change much less become what you want it to be. The only thing that can change is you. Face your fears, grow stronger and become what you want to be."
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    Default Re: The Disaster - Did i mess up too far? Is there a way to recover?

    I did the same thing the other day. Not going to lie buddy, that last text was embarassing, but take solace that we've all been there.
    Freeze-out.

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    Default Re: The Disaster - Did i mess up too far? Is there a way to recover?

    Disagree on not texting girls high... Being high gets me in touch with my feelings. It helps me write music, appreciate nature, enjoy food. That's why I don't mind texting girls high - attraction is a feeling, not a thought process. Plus I'm high all the time and I gotta text girls sometime! Lolz

    You can show a girl you like her without telling her directly or being AFC. Just show her you like her through your words/actions. She needs to know you like her without being too invested in the outcome or being needy. You're just in the moment, you're feeling her, she's feeling you and you're both enjoying that feeling. You wanna bang her sure but that's the icing on the cake. She feels tension cus she's into you but she doesn't know what it means or where it's gonna go. And that tension is what makes her wanna bang you!

    Getting high helps me be in the moment and feel that tension. Overthinking it = omg is this text gonna make her wanna bang me?!? Get high you might just see through that bs. The mind is lieing but the feeling is real!

    Note if you get paranoid or anxious while high this advice might not help. But 100% texting girls drunk is worse. I love drinking but alcohol is truly a scourge. Legalize the herb fellas, it's only a matter of time might as well be now.

    Darn I'm an advocate but hope some of this was helpful 8)

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    Default Re: The Disaster - Did i mess up too far? Is there a way to recover?

    Yup the damage has been done. Probably the most embarrassing moment of my life. I work with her so it was embarrassing as fuck! All her friends were looking at me and lunch they were texting/whispering with each other. Ugh I just wanna vent right now and feeling like quiting work, I didn't expect her to be like that... I am happy and sad cuz I learned from it but same time I really liked this chick. Like man.. she actually told me that she was interested and just messing it up like this hurts really badly. The funny thing is that she thinks I was sober when I wrote all that bullshit. Man I just can't describe the feeling of disgust I have for her. And the thing that even tops it off that I am 20 years old never kissed a girl or even had a girlfriend, and can't believe that I was that close and messed it up that badly.

    I know I am just going off but I feel this is the only place where I can share my feelings because if I don't I might just punch someone... lol funny thing keeps popping into my mind is a lyric but kanye west "you cut me deep bitch, cut me like surgery"

    I was wondering if I should text her that I was high and she didn't had to embarrass me like that, or if you guys can offer any ideas.

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    Default Re: The Disaster - Did i mess up too far? Is there a way to recover?

    Quote Originally Posted by Mind Tricks View Post
    Yup the damage has been done. Probably the most embarrassing moment of my life. I work with her so it was embarrassing as fark! All her friends were looking at me and lunch they were texting/whispering with each other. Ugh I just wanna vent right now and feeling like quiting work, I didn't expect her to be like that... I am happy and sad cuz I learned from it but same time I really liked this chick. Like man.. she actually told me that she was interested and just messing it up like this hurts really badly. The funny thing is that she thinks I was sober when I wrote all that bullsh1t. Man I just can't describe the feeling of disgust I have for her. And the thing that even tops it off that I am 20 years old never kissed a girl or even had a girlfriend, and can't believe that I was that close and messed it up that badly.

    I know I am just going off but I feel this is the only place where I can share my feelings because if I don't I might just punch someone... lol funny thing keeps popping into my mind is a lyric but kanye west "you cut me deep bitch, cut me like surgery"

    I was wondering if I should text her that I was high and she didn't had to embarrass me like that, or if you guys can offer any ideas.
    Noooo. Anything you do at this point will just make things worse.
    Just pretend like it didn't happen, for god sakes dont quit your job, and be extra confident at work for the next few weeks, and non awkward around her.
    It will all be OK, its not the end of the world, and its a learning experience.

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    Default Re: The Disaster - Did i mess up too far? Is there a way to recover?

    Dude Jackade great job on the advice Ive been reading this post for a while now.

    I agree pretend like it didnt happen and be confident do not confront her due to the fact that you will DLV yourself. Now then stop living in that shame time to embrace it. So what if you screwed up? We all do! Look it sucks you were close but frankly we are always going to be close, sometimes it just doesnt happen. Learn from this and use it for the future. You had the balls to put yourself out there thats great now keep them and continue.
    Take her off that farking pedestal!

    “The truth does not change according to our ability to stomach it.”
    ― Flannery O'Connor

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    Default Re: The Disaster - Did i mess up too far? Is there a way to recover?

    Dude that sucks about work but fuck em dude. You told her you like her so what it's not like you molested her. So what if she doesn't feel the same way? Don't ever apologize for being a man. You gotta fail to succeed man it's agonizing but in the end you'll look back on it as just another step in this journey. Stick it out stay cool don't worry what anyone thinks just keep doing you.

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    Default Re: The Disaster - Did i mess up too far? Is there a way to recover?

    Do not feel too bad, everyone messes up. At least you showed some guts and
    tried, and even though it went wrong it was way better than not trying at
    all. I guarantee that everyone here has messed up lots of times and probably
    way worse. Right now its painful but true growth often seems unpleasant.
    In time it will seem like nothing and you will probably even laugh about what
    happened with your friends.

    Also if she did in fact tell everyone then she is a little immature. Would you
    tell everyone if a woman admitted she really liked you privately ? Of course
    not. I would not confront her or be too angry with her either. Chin up
    and act like it never happened because it is none of their business
    what you privately text to someone else.

    As for being "that close" and messing up, we all have a ton of being
    "that close" stories. She will not be the last woman you like who
    likes you back. There will be plenty of women in the very near future
    who will like you. You might even mess up again. When you do, just pick
    yourself up, brush off whatever hurt as best you can, and keep moving
    forward. Be proud of yourself for trying.


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