Okay so, got a question here (obviously). I recently picked up the ebook, "The Sexual Key" and tried one of the, "techniques" just the other day. It seemed to work well. If anyone's not familiar with it, it's basically about talking about something in a way that brings her on an emotional journey, feeling deeper and deeper emotions by using great detail when describing the experience. It's suggested in the book that women want to feel deep emotions but most guys don't know how to bring them out and this appeared to work somewhat. She's also told me that she likes romance novels because they bring her to that place of deep emotions, that's she's a very emotional person that way. However, I've always known she's not a romantic .. she hates flowers and that kind of stuff. So I asked her, how can she love romance novels and movies and yet, not be romantic at heart. She told me that she likes reading about things like that but would not want it to happen in her life .. that it would be sad. I really have no idea what she meant by this and kinda let it be. After all this whole thing is meant to work on a subconscious level anyway .. for her to subconsciously connect feeling those deep emotions with me, as I'm the one who through such stories and talk will be the one bringing them out.
Still, I wonder what she meant by this and wonder if anyone else has any advice about it. A part of me feels that maybe she's afraid that if it did happen in her life, she'd feel it's too good to be true and not trust it. She loves those books but said, "That's not how love really is." I don't think she even believes in true love anymore. But then, maybe this isn't true at all .. maybe she would really LOVE for these things to happen in her life but doesn't expect it ever will so she's closed her heart to them.
Right now, I'm leaning toward just continuing to talk this way with her and see what happens .. see if the repeated talk that causes her to reflect and draw out these good feelings will in fact connect with me as the source of them and draw her. We already have something really great together .. I'm just trying to help bring it to the next level.
Anyway .. thoughts? Thanks!