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    Default trying to get 2nd date with online girl i met

    Hey guys, first off I wanna say i'm new to the site but i've been lurking for a month here. Want to thank everyone for the great threads and it's been quite some help. PS sorry for the essay

    Met a girl online thru dating site, got her # and met up with her and her friends that following weekend ( last weekend). Ended up making out and eventually getting back to her place, she said she never met anyone online and went all the way but we did that. Next day i left early kissed her and said we should catch a movie/grab a bite sometime. I waited and let her text me in the next 2 days saying ''what movie we should watch etc"

    We set it up for thurs, but wed morning she said she picked up a OT nite shift ( shes a nurse) so i said it was cool no worries, we should do something on the weekend and she said sure. We've been texting each day following fri night where i texted her, no response but she texted back on sat. I've been teasing/making fun of her quite a bit throughout the whole week and we havent texted since sat night. I believe shes working the next few days but I need some help trying to set up a date since i already had asked and nothing really happened, i dont wanna come off needy with this chick. She's been very secretive to the point where she wouldn't tell me her last name but asks alotttttttttttt of questions and wants to always KNOW! what im doing/where i am. Any ideas to set up the 2nd date?

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    Default Re: trying to get 2nd date with online girl i met

    She may have just wanted a ONS and may not think of you as a LTR so consider that. Girls can change moods pretty easily. Also accept she is simply busy. I would go NC for a while because you tried to set up the second date but she was busy. Wait until she texts. If she does you then know she does like you more than a ONS. Continue to be playful and dont immediately ask her for a date. Give her a chance to try initiate the second date. Reveal a little more about yourself she hasn't learnt yet. Play a little hard to get. Maybe offer something more interesting than a movie. You want to get back to the intimacy you had on the 1st date so I would suggest drinks or invite her to your place for dinner.

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    Default Re: trying to get 2nd date with online girl i met

    She have trust issues and studying you a little but then again she could have another person in her life but who knows. The thing is you continue with your life and if she wants to also be part of the action there is a seat there waiting for her.

    What you could do is go somewhere with your friends and invite her and keep doing this every week. This shows that you are continuing with your life you are not going to stalk her or creep her out. Red Baron mentions he does this like a facebook status message. I think Kino Suave said something similar in a thread he created about not directly setting up dates.

    Quote Originally Posted by kid1 View Post
    Hey guys, first off I wanna say i'm new to the site but i've been lurking for a month here. Want to thank everyone for the great threads and it's been quite some help. PS sorry for the essay

    Met a girl online thru dating site, got her # and met up with her and her friends that following weekend ( last weekend). Ended up making out and eventually getting back to her place, she said she never met anyone online and went all the way but we did that. Next day i left early kissed her and said we should catch a movie/grab a bite sometime. I waited and let her text me in the next 2 days saying ''what movie we should watch etc"

    We set it up for thurs, but wed morning she said she picked up a OT nite shift ( shes a nurse) so i said it was cool no worries, we should do something on the weekend and she said sure. We've been texting each day following fri night where i texted her, no response but she texted back on sat. I've been teasing/making fun of her quite a bit throughout the whole week and we havent texted since sat night. I believe shes working the next few days but I need some help trying to set up a date since i already had asked and nothing really happened, i dont wanna come off needy with this chick. She's been very secretive to the point where she wouldn't tell me her last name but asks alotttttttttttt of questions and wants to always KNOW! what im doing/where i am. Any ideas to set up the 2nd date?
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    Default Re: trying to get 2nd date with online girl i met

    By being secretive and yet asking a ton of questions she is sending
    off some bad signals.

    I have written about this elsewhere on the forum but people who
    are disloyal often think that others are not loyal and have
    something to hide. They project their own behavior onto others.
    Even if she completely honest in her own affairs it still shows
    that she is unduly paranoid.

    Also if you keep answering her questions while accepting her
    refusal to answer simple questions like what her last name is
    then it is like telling her that she is more important. She will
    start to feel that you find it acceptable for her to do whatever
    she wants while keeping you on a short leash.

    Personally I would be weary of wanting to date anyone
    that refuses to tell me their last name.

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    Default Re: trying to get 2nd date with online girl i met

    Appreciate the responses, I don't think she wanted a ONS because she was stoked for the 2nd date, she actually asked me if i was stoked ( and then next day canceled bc of work stuff, she is a nurse so for sure busy) Yeah I was thinking of dinner as well, i've told her about my online poker success and being an actor so she was very curious about that. She wouldn't give me her last name thus i can't FB her.

    I thought maybe she had other guys in her life bc of this but who knows really, i get the vibe from her she doesn't from our overall messages. Agree about her trust issues/insecurity, i am younger than her by 3 years so he was making fun of that more than once. How long should I choose NC for? My plan was to NC for 2-3 days and then perhaps text her something like "hey loser. i wanna see your face" but I feel since i asked to meet up and it didn't work, I should wait for her. Any more thoughts? Much appreciated.

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    Default Re: trying to get 2nd date with online girl i met

    Yeah- she said she was tricky and I already sensed that, she is very needy/asking questions A LOT and needs the info. I agree about the paranoia/trust issue stuff. I just wanna see her for the 2nd date and see how that plans out ( without being semi drunk meeting up and more drinking).

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    Default Re: trying to get 2nd date with online girl i met

    Quote Originally Posted by kid1 View Post
    How long should I choose NC for? My plan was to NC for 2-3 days and then perhaps text her something like "hey loser. i wanna see your face" but I feel since i asked to meet up and it didn't work, I should wait for her. Any more thoughts? Much appreciated.
    I wouldn't say that. I would just go NC and wait and see. If she doesn't respond in a week you know she is not that serious about you. If she writes in a few days then you have a better angle of how to approach again and you will have some texts from her to analyze. You've only just met her and I personally wouldn't worry about what's going on in her private life. If she wont answer certain questions, fine, you won't either. If she constantly asks you questions use it to your advantage and always give her a sarcastic answer so it makes it a chore for her to continually ask. Your main goal is to sleep with her again yes? So if you have already slept together you could raise some sexual innuendo when you contact each other again. There are many girls Ive slept with I dont even remember their first names let alone their last names. A girl doesn't have to reveal everything to me - just enough to show me she is not going to be a pycho bitch.

    It also could be her period right now, who knows. I wouldnt think too far ahead. Game some other girls to take your mind off things and wait to see if she re-initiates from your NC. You can ask for more advice here then.


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