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Thread: Did I just get friend-zoned?

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    Default Did I just get friend-zoned?

    Ok, so I'm not one to get friend-zoned, really ever. It's just a role I never fell into (I guess I'm just too touchy and flirty) so I need to know, did I just get friend zoned?


    Was dating this girl and it was really intense for both of us. She's definitely an IJR btw. She was upfront with what was going on, but she had a thing for her friend and had just gotten over it. We had a good and intense fling for a little, and then her friend came back and they decided to date. I moved on. About 2 months later we talked and she mentioned hanging out, but when we were supposed to meet she didn't respond. Then later that week she told me something had happened so she wasn't in the right frame of mind.

    Well I texted her the next week (maybe two weeks later actually) and she said her bf broke up with her, so I just played the nice guy but made sure not to fall into any role where she'd complain to me about other guys often.

    I waited a few weeks, keep in mind I'm seeing a few people so I'm not too stressed about it, but she's not just a friend if you catch my drift, and didn't want to smother her or anything. Texted her last thursday saying hey how you feeling? and we talked for a few hours about how she's super focused on her work right now and it's going well for her and just general chit chat. I was my usual charming self, but a little subdued. played a little of disiniterest too and she kept the convo going for a little

    Then I texted her tonight saying hey how's the work going and she was like good you know me, I'm working! I didn't respond immediately bc I was in the shower and when I got out she had sent me this huge text saying that she was sorry for being so cold and how she just wasn't focused on guys and it must've been 5 or 6 messages long - on an iphone. I was shocked because we just spoke once before (last thursday). I just said that I understand and that at this point i'm just keeping a dialogue to see how she was doing, and that she knows I've got some solid self-confidence so there's nothing to worry about, but if this is her saying she's uncomfortable to tell me. She just responded with "Thanks you put the biggest smile on my face, and I'm not uncomfortable I just don't want you to be confused or hurt or anything. So how was your weekend?"

    So?! Did I just get friend zoned?

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    Default Re: Did I just get friend-zoned?

    No you are not friendzoned yet but be careful she is trying to slot you into that category because you keep asking her how she is doing and how is work knowing that she just broke up with her boyfriend. Those long texts are her way of trying to draw you into asking what is wrong and which will lead her into venting. You are not her confidant or crying shoulder she has girls for that. So the next time you text her, ask her to hang out or do something fun giving you a chance to kino, and trying to escalate things to another level.

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    Default Re: Did I just get friend-zoned?

    Thanks Flyer, I thought maybe a month or so may have been quite a long time for a girl to deal with those emotions but I suppose my impatience had gotten to me again. I'll definitely take your advice and am glad I waited things out and ended up saying what I did (about how I was just looking to check in etc). I'll also have to give it a little more time I think

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    Default Re: Did I just get friend-zoned?

    you played nice guy (that will deffently get you in friendzone)
    Men, we need to value our time more then we value women. This isn't to say women are not valuable. But who are we to believe in something so illogical, as men we should realize that without our time(life), we would not even be able to pursue women, but only our mother who gave us life. Why do we think we should prioritize them over our time(life) unless she is the one who gives me/my children life. Man is Sovereignty.


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