I was really debating on posting this, but I've let my mind blow it out of preportion and now its bugging me a bit, and I want a good frame when I go into the situation.
I pulled this girl's number at a party. We went on one date, had a good time, but I was pretty nervous through it. We have already specified neither of us wants a relationship, though I actually see her as potential for this. We have been texting back and fourth for a few months, as we are both pretty busy people. Sometimes our conversations are fluff, othertimes they are light, fun and flirty. She always responds to my flirting. My main problem has been her history of flakes with me. She will even ask me out, then either cancel the day before/of and flat out told me one day she would rather go out with her other friend comming up from another town (we live in different towns as well).
After that flake I didn't answer her texts or anything for a few months. Well this month she started texting me back about an annual halloween party that our group of friends throws every year. Its the best and biggest party in our town. I play a role in planning so I gave her the info and we chatted about it and what not. During this conversation I told her she owes me dinner. She said that she has been wanting to take me out for a while, and we committed to saturday. The day before I told her my weekend was full, and I couldn't make it (which was actually true...I was volunteering at a benefit dinner for a friend of mine recently diagonsed with cancer).
After this she started contacting me. I answered, sometimes fun, sometimes half assed, just whatever I felt like. Usually though I get bored of one of her responses, or the conversation and end it. Now I had some business to handle in her town. She texted me and I told her I was heading up there soon and we should hang out. She said she fell back asleep until about 9 (which is right about the time she has to go to work) and told me she is so sorry. I didn't respond for a few minutes, as I was handling that business at this point, and she texted me again telling me she dreamed about me (going to tease her on it later because that's a cheesy ass line imo). I told her afterwards that I was about to leave town and she was about to go to work, so its whatever. I think she could tell it didn't really bother me, but that I knew she was full of sh1t.
This week she contacts me, with that classic text we all love to hear "Hey you". After a bit of fluff she asks if her roommate (female) and her may crash at my place the night of the party so they can get extra trashed. I told them yea, I would make sure they made it there safe, and for her to bring blankets and pillows and what not because I don't have extras. Also an overnight bag so they could shower, and if she plays her cards right I might just make them breakfast.
Now over the texts she has hinted a few times that she likes me and I'm not friendzoned, but a move like that suggests one of two things to me...
a) I am friend zoned and she sees me as safe and comfortable and feels safe crashing at my place. I feel asking to crash like that, knowing what might happen would make her feel a bit slutty as she is planning on sex, and seems out of character for her.
b)She is just as sick of only texting and talking sometimes and is fed up with all the games and she is doing this so I'll make my move and get us out of this rut.
Just to let it be said, I will surely escalate with her, and unless she says no to me, I'm going to take her. It is a done deal.
Whats killing me is my frame. It almost seems like she reinitiated with me so she has a place to crash (she doesn't need me to get into the party). Anyway I'm not going to plan anything, or take a specific approach as I think it works better when I naturally just let my mojo flow.
Now down to the real question...What is the purpose of her friend in this dynamic? Keep her from sleeping with me? Keep me from making my move/isolating? In case things go bad help her bail. This post is long, perhaps I should shorten it.