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    Default I don't care of having a girlfriend

    I feel like I'm not ready to have a girlfriend. I just wouldn't know what to do with her.

    I'm kind of a loner and many things I enjoy are activities best done alone. Like cycling, martial arts, playing the piano, stuff on the computer. But now I feel like I have no place for a girl in my life. I mean, what would I do with her? Outside of sex, that is. Even going on a date seems so unnatural to me, since it usually involves going to places I wouldn't normally go.

    I would always think of where to take a girl on a date. But often I can't think of anything. I seem to hate so many things it's really hard to think of a date that I would actually enjoy. I have stopped asking girls out because of this.
    I see other couples sticking together all the time. Going here and there together, sitting together at home, hanging out together. I could never do this, it feels so unnatural to me. I tried it with girlfriends in the past. I was forcing myself and felt very uncomfortable doing it. Needless to say, the relationships were short-lived.

    For me, being a loner is not a bad thing. I can be very charming if I feel like it, but I don't stick around people much. After much experimentation this seems to be the only way I can really be myself. I get signs from pretty girls every now and then, but I have stopped acting on it. Cos what's the point?

    But still, in the back of my mind, I feel like I'm missing out on something.
    And it DRIVES ME CRAZY!

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    I just realized that these thoughts are only statements. I actually have no question to ask you guys. As always, I like to hear your thoughts, but I'm probably going to take some time off.

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    Default Re: I don't care of having a girlfriend

    i think you are missing out. there are lots of girls out there you just havent found the right one. you need to go have fun enjoy life
    im on a different level

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    Default Re: I don't care of having a girlfriend

    "I don't care of having a girlfriend". Then why are you on this forum? If its to motivate yourself and be confident and to attract others then you are in the right place.

    It seems like you enjoy being alone and also like having a companion. Sometimes I like to be myself so I can formulate my thoughts, play video games, work on my own projects etc. But there is the other side when you want to interact with others especially women.

    My thoughts is that you need to do some soul searching first before you bring anyone in your life. What do you really want and go from there.
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    Default Re: I don't care of having a girlfriend

    If being a loner is what makes you happy, then stick with it

    If you're afraid of one day dying alone, then... Find some social activities Where you would prefer someone else's company

    But for real... If you want to be alone why are you here? No judgement, I just dont get it
    Never need praise, sympathy, or approval



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    Default Re: I don't care of having a girlfriend

    I think you're here because of two reasons.

    First, this line:

    'I mean, what would I do with her? Outside of sex, that is.'

    So, sex. There's plenty of info on how to get sexfriends around here, especially among direct game posts if you want to skip the whole dating thing.




    I think you're REALLY here for reason number two: Why the hell don't you enjoy dating and are you missing out?

    Well, you said you can't be yourself around others and can only really be yourself when you're alone. Which is why you prefer being alone. So the thing is you feel like you can't be yourself around others. This is simply an inner game issue. Confidence.

    I think you're best off learning from a master of inner game and truly being yourself: David X. Look up his stuff online and on youtube. He wrote a small PDF book you could look up.

    Not being afraid to be yourself will not only allow you to have more fun, but it'll help you out with the ladies too. Good luck with this, bro!

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    Default Re: I don't care of having a girlfriend

    So, sex. There's plenty of info on how to get sexfriends around here, especially among direct game posts if you want to skip the whole dating thing.

    Lol, sexfriends. That's funny. And it's true; that's why I primarily run direct or bombshell.

    I know where you're coming from. My thoughts are similar, but they go in a cyclical pattern. Right now, that's where I'm at too. I've dropped most girls for the time being and I'm very happy having done so, much happier than if I would have kept them all.

    I fly solo. Always have and probably always will. With my personality I gather more followers than friends and I quickly grow tired of most women after seeing them only a few times. That becomes a post-game trait--getting bored with women. They'll make you happy, but they won't give you happpiness.

    If I had to guess, I'd guess two things:

    1. You're young.
    2. You're too smart for your own good.

    It's a burden but it has its perks. There's a chance that you might also be like me in this respect, and most guys think I'm crazy for it, but I don't care about sex. I just don't. It's alright and all, but I don't go out of my way and there are many things I'd rather do. Since it's the only thing women hold over our heads as men, it leaves them powerless. When she is powerless it's not longer a power struggle. I win from the start, so The Game has just become...I win.

    Occasionally I'll pick up a girl for sex, but most of the time I just qualify them until they drop out. All I really want is a friend. Girls are a dime a dozen. Friends are hard to find.

    I sympathize, and that's all I've really got to say.
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    Default Re: I don't care of having a girlfriend

    I think you are missing love, have you ever loved a woman? I was like you a few years ago, then I felt love and that was when I discovered what I was missing so I started to get more social, get a life, become confident, and get out of my comfort zone to find a girlfriend.
    you are lucky though, you can still attract them, so try them soon you will find the right one who will have a serious effect on you reality.
    If it frightens you, Do It!

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    Default Re: I don't care of having a girlfriend

    It seems to me like your in a bit of a rut. Yes they're is nothing wrong with being a loner especially if your happy being there but it sounds like you aren't. Having a girlfriend doesn't mean you have to be together with her ALL the time (like you mentioned about couples) and if dates seem out of the ordinary to you then who needs them. I think you need to sit down with yourself and really think about what you want. As you said, those thoughts are all statements but you still have the unsatisfied feeling. Meditate and find out why.

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    Default Re: I don't care of having a girlfriend

    i have to agree with the above posters, it sounds to me that you don't know what you realy want, and it is likely that you want what most everyone here wants, an ltr with the woman of your dreams. you don't want to be a player, you just want a meaningful relationship, but your not sure what to do to have one. know yourself and know what you truely want before going out after whatever you think you may want

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    Default Re: I don't care of having a girlfriend

    I think Cody and Virgil hit this one on the head. It's not so much that you can't be yourself around others, you just lack the self confidence that you need to be yourself.

    There is plenty of reading you can do on this but the biggest piece of advice I can give you is this: Stop caring what others think. You are you. It's your life. No one has any right to judge you. As soon as they judge you, you are better than them. Keep that in mind.

    I also agree with Cody in that you are young and too smart for your own good. I know the feel. I'm not trying to sound arrogant or cocky, but I get things. The world makes sense to me and I can see/understand how it operates. Obviously there are things individuals do that don't make sense but that's because they are going against the universe. Seek out a friend that also understands things and you'll feel better. My best friend is like this, he gets things and since befriending him my confidence has gone way up.

    Finally, I wouldn't try searching for any sort of relationship, friend or romantic. This isn't to say don't let them happen. Just let go of things and don't try and make them happen - let them happen on their own. Once you let go, it will feel like a huge burden has been lifted and things will seem to fall into place on their own with no effort from you.
    DOOOOONNNN'TTTT CAAAARREEEEE

    You are the prize. She needs to earn it.


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