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Thread: One-itis girl; turning it around

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    Default One-itis girl; turning it around

    Hi everyone...

    Here's the situation:
    I had serious oneitis on this woman... she and I worked together before my divorce, and we flirted over the years, however it didn't go anywhere as I was married and neither of us pushed for more than just innocent flirting.

    My ex-wife had, as they do, beat the crap out of my game, (what game I had before these forums... which still, admittedly, isn't much), so after she left me I had nothing but low self esteem and a few sticks of furniture.

    I digress...

    Several months after my divorce, we started dating, and in typical AFC fashion, I took her to expensive dinners, bought her gifts, the works. Well, as you can certainly guess - I got shamed. So now, after some really good advice and teachings on this board, I've started running game, (limited as it is) on her. Now I make her work for my attention... you guys were right on so many levels... and now I've told her that I have some time this afternoon to spend with her, and to put on something tight and come over... and she's coming over in ten minutes... not sure if I'll be able to close - my game is still developing and I'm pretty nervous - but I'm going to go with what I've learned so far and see how far the Mystery/Style Method will take me... any thoughts in the next ten minutes?

    I'll post a follow up and let you guys know how it works... any help in the next few would be amazing... thanks!

    DocRod

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    Default Re: One-itis girl; turning it around

    Ok... so plenty of views on this one; I will assume that lots of people are waiting to hear what happened... it went, as I suppose most of the experts believed it would, poorly.

    Yes; she came over...
    Yes; I gave time constraint and showed confidence...
    Yes; I acted like she was my puppet...

    She dug it; she responded well... but here's the thing - she is, I believe, a natural player (at least to the extent that some women are players). I mean, she is very good at push-pull... not great at negging, but really good at push-pull... and GREAT at leaving with everything she wants and giving nothing in return.

    I'm coming to believe that all of the one-itis girls out there are naturals... very good at fulfilling their need to have their ego stroked, their self-esteem built, on the backs of the poor AFC's who chase them mercilessly. The real kicker is that, at least in this case, I believe she knows exactly what she's doing. Now, I had her leave after a couple of hours Friday night... then set it up for her to come over Saturday night... just for good measure, I threw some real demands on her... 'wear something tight' and 'don't forget to shave your legs'.

    What the hell... the worst she could do, (and possibly the best thing she could do for me), was say 'step off' and stop talking to me.

    Well... she didn't show Saturday. I texted a '?' and she replied with: "I'm sitting on my couch eating ramen noodles - I'm not going to make it... it's too cold outside... lol"

    I was pissed. I replied with: "Wow... good job letting me know."

    She texted a half-assed 'sorry'. I didn't respond. I froze her out... I was prepared to just never talk to her again... she texted me back twenty minutes ago: "Today is definately prettier than yesterday."

    Should I respond, or give her a hard core freeze-out?

    I really believe this:

    One-itis girls are emotional black-holes. They suck up the very thing that makes us part of this community... the very thing that makes us successful in so many other parts of our game and our lives... Confidence...

    I'll keep you posted...

    Doc R

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    Default Re: One-itis girl; turning it around

    Freeze it. You've said yourself that she knows what she's doing and is excellent at push-pull. You've also shown her that you are able to be manipulated into taking her out to nice dinners and buying her nice things. She's testing just how much control she has. Giving in and continuing to seek her approval will just show her you have no will of your own.

    Show her that you are your own man and are not someone to be manipulated. Freeze her out, make her work for your attention, maybe even insist that the next date be on her to make sure that you're not the one sticking your neck out.

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    Default Re: One-itis girl; turning it around

    Awesome advice, Shadowstorm... I'm going to do just that... not sure if it will work, but again, what's the worst that could happen?

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    Default Re: One-itis girl; turning it around

    If she loses interest and goes elsewhere, she was looking for a puppet. So the "worst" that could happen is you save your money from an experienced gold digger.

    However, on that note, beware things going too well. If she really is a pro, she'll notice what you're doing and give a little of herself to get a lot from you. Keep it slow for a bit, lay off the expensive outings and try and keep the score even. If she stays with you, game on. If she quickly loses interest, it was never meant to be.


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