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Thread: How can a person of short stature be completely immune to his stature

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    Default How can a person of short stature be completely immune to his stature

    I'm a noticeably short guy, but I'm not a dwarf. I don't have heavy inferiority complex due to my short stature, but I do feel slightly uncomfortable when I am with a girl who is noticeably higher than me. People say "You should be confident", but they don't tell how to be confident. Admittedly, I live a happy life and my height doesn't bother me too much, but I've rarely got any girls. I think my short stature, along with other factors, contributes to it. I can not be completely immune to the social prejudice against a short guy when it comes to man-and-woman things. Maybe I should think I am desirable even if I'm short. The point is, how can I believe I am desirable even if I'm short? In my country, the majority of people don't think a short guy is desirable. How can I adopt a belief which empowers me? I want to emphasize, I need to know HOW, the "HOW" should be workable in real life. For example, a friend is worrying about something, and you want to help her so you tell her, "Don't worry". But it doesn't work in real life. Your friend may say, "I don't want to worry, either. But I don't know how to make myself not worry."

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    Default Re: How can a person of short stature be completely immune to his stature

    In general when you want to change alter perceptions of desirability between groups (short/tall) one way to do it is through a mechanism called In-group/"Othering."

    Bascially imagine yourself and other shorter guys as the In-group, aka the "cool kids" the "top dogs" etc. Imagine a group of shorter guys standing around having a good time, laughing and joking around. Then a tall guys walks up and he looks ridiculous; like some kind of stalky scarecrow, like a gangly spotted giraffe. The short guys laugh and jeer at him and he walks away with his abnormally high head hung in shame. Then some ladies approach the group of shorter guys, and these ladies are HOT! Bikini models actually. The women are even a little bit taller than the guys but these men are treated like emporers by these girls. The girls are enamored by the shorter men, the fawn over them and stroke their hair, because these are high-value men, and their value is so high in other elements of their lives (charisma, charm, knowledge, conviction) that stature is not even on the radar. The tall guy returns and is dashed down again when he tries to kiss a girl - he looks ridiculous leaning down to reach her, chasing her from his abnormal height. She pulls away from him and leans over to kiss one of the shorter guys. He never looks ridiculous when he kisses a woman because the woman comes to him.
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    Default Re: How can a person of short stature be completely immune to his stature

    Deep Inner Game is something developed. Confidence can't be taught, it is gathered within ones self. I can only recommend resources. Try reading Ralph Waldo Emerson's, Self-Reliance.
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    Default Re: How can a person of short stature be completely immune to his stature

    Being short = being fat. And I don't mean 90% of the member's definition of fat, I mean obese. Its simple really. Who cares you stand "tall" (ignore the pun) and realize yea, some girls don't like a hefty man, but if YOU have the flavor they want, then they are going to get it. Basically, quit worrying about being short, and if you catch a bit of shit laugh it off, make them sound ridiculous for making fun of you for it, and that is what is going to make the difference. You have to own your insecurity and make it work for you...

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    Default Re: How can a person of short stature be completely immune to his stature

    Quote Originally Posted by Cody View Post
    Deep Inner Game is something developed. Confidence can't be taught, it is gathered within ones self. I can only recommend resources. Try reading Ralph Waldo Emerson's, Self-Reliance.
    Thanks for your recommendation. I will read the book.

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    Default Re: How can a person of short stature be completely immune to his stature

    There are probably all kinds of things you are missing that might
    make life easier for you. At the same time there are probably a
    bunch of other things you have that you take for granted such
    as hearing, sight, mobility, etc that other people do not possess.
    This is life and you will never grow through worry. Find the areas
    in which you can grow and work on those things. Work on your
    charm, your charisma, sense of humor. Have a great career you
    love, have a fun pad, cook, be a great conversationalist. Give the
    women you bed the best sex they will ever have. Be bold and pro
    active. I could go on but the point is to work with what you have
    rather than worrying about what you do not and cannot possess.

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    Smile Re: How can a person of short stature be completely immune to his stature

    Quote Originally Posted by Jacklife View Post
    I'm a noticeably short guy, but I'm not a dwarf. I don't have heavy inferiority complex due to my short stature, but I do feel slightly uncomfortable when I am with a girl who is noticeably higher than me. People say "You should be confident", but they don't tell how to be confident. Admittedly, I live a happy life and my height doesn't bother me too much, but I've rarely got any girls. I think my short stature, along with other factors, contributes to it. I can not be completely immune to the social prejudice against a short guy when it comes to man-and-woman things. Maybe I should think I am desirable even if I'm short. The point is, how can I believe I am desirable even if I'm short? In my country, the majority of people don't think a short guy is desirable. How can I adopt a belief which empowers me? I want to emphasize, I need to know HOW, the "HOW" should be workable in real life. For example, a friend is worrying about something, and you want to help her so you tell her, "Don't worry". But it doesn't work in real life. Your friend may say, "I don't want to worry, either. But I don't know how to make myself not worry."
    I don't know if you're ever going to see my reply as it's over a year since you posted the above, but I'll make my post anyway. Let me first say that Heightism - which is prejudice against the short-statured, is a ubiquitous phenomenon. It is an acceptable social prejudice. John Kenneth Galbraith once said: "The bias in favor of Tallness is one of societies most blatant and forgiven prejudices". He was certainly correct. One thing is for certain and that is that the so-called "advice" you will get from people off the street, well, that advice and a token will get you on the bus so-to-speak. People will tell you the usual bull, and that is, be confident, be funny, have a great personality, dress well, workout, etc. - This is all bull. Short people and short men in particular are victims of a social prejudice called heightism. No one tells a Black man, or an Hispanic man, or a Jewish man, or a Gay man, or anyone else for that matter to confront prejudice by "being confident". Yes, it is important to have confidence in your personal life, no argument about that, but that doesn't make a dent in society's prejudice against the short. You need to educate yourself first about heightism, and that's what my website supportfortheshortdo torg is about. I can't tell you how to pick up girls, but I can tell you to avoid the vast majority of the advice that you're likely to get on forums such as this one. I've seen some of the advice some people give and it's just laughable. I can also tell you that some of the worst places to meet women are bars and clubs. These women are usually the most shallow, the least intelligent, and the most prejudiced against short men. Women are also realizing now, that since so many other discriminatory practices against so many other groups are now taboo, they look for an acceptable group to disparage, and more and more I've found that that group is short men. All you have to do to see this literal hate is go view Twitter posts about short men, and the absolute hatred is unbelievable. But good luck in your search for a partner and please take a look at my website.

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    Default Re: How can a person of short stature be completely immune to his stature

    Small advice because I saw the video yesterday. Simple pickup put up a video of a VERY short guy picking up tall girls, really interesting thing to see.

    My analysis of it, how he managed that: first, he has confidence through the roof. No matter if the prejudice is fair or not, he accepts their shit and is totally invulnerable to it. And second, he actually points out directly that he is way smaller than the girls. He doesn't hide, he just makes fun of it directly, so it's out of there. Some of my favorites were:

    "How tall are you? I'm sure it's worth the climb."
    "I would never look down on you baby"
    "Wait, I'll keep it short"

    Way harder to make fun of him afterwards. He will never stop taking shit before of his height, let's be fair, but he handles it like a boss
    Seduction is a martial art. Reading books and talking to experts is important, and helpful. But you won't progress unless you go out there and fight.


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