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    Default Can you help me perfect my direct approach? It's only worked 1 out of 2

    I just started college. This is my direct approach. I'm smiling and in chill mood
    Me: excuse me can I say something to you.
    Her:yeah sure
    Mek so this maybe a bit random but I think your really cute. And I would be thinking of why I never say hi to you.
    Her:she starts smiling
    Me: hi my name is mshymackin
    Her:hi I'm blah blah
    Me: how's your day going and then i talk about her school and classes and crack a joke or 2.
    Her: ......respond in good mood.
    Me: hey I have to go but we should continue over coffee. Give me your number and we are off.

    Any suggestions on making it better? Should I give her hug at end? After i compliment her, if she says I gotta a bf, how can I use the bf destroyer?

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    Default Re: Can you help me perfect my direct approach? It's only worked 1 out of 2

    Avoid "asking for permission to talk to her" Meaning: never start out with "Excuse me...."
    (That's a total beta move)

    Also- refrain from asking "Job interview style questions" - How's your day? Where ya from? What do you do? Where do you work/go to school? etc...

    You want to spark curiosity wit her & make her have FUN!
    (None of these questions are going to be fun or interesting)

    You're better off taking guesses about her.
    "So, I'm thinking you're probably a world class speed-knitting champion... I bet you could make me a sweater in less than 10 minutes!" *wink, smile

    Also- on the initial approach: Just start talking & flirting from the moment go.
    Saying "Excuse me" gives her the subconscious impression that SHE is better than you, & you're lucky to be able to talk to her.

    Never ask for permission to approach or talk to a girl.... just do it.

    Girls LOVE confident guys. Period!

    And never compliment her on her looks when you first meet her. (Every schmuck in the world does that!)

    You want to be different from all those guys.
    Complimenting her on her fashion sense or talents or personality is OK... but don't tell her she's "cute / beautiful / gorgeous"... etc until AFTER you've spent some time with her.

    Hug her in the very beginning! (Instead of waiting until the end)
    Establish the physical touch from the start, and it''l put her at ease a lot sooner.


    It takes a little practice to get away from the usual things guys do... but when you break those bad habits, you'll see a HUGE difference!!


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    Default Re: Can you help me perfect my direct approach? It's only worked 1 out of 2

    Check out some day game for ideas. There's plenty of videos and info on the stuff. Work some subtle kino into your interaction. The boyfriend destroyer well not really my area of expertise, only advice I have there is that you need to act unfazed.
    Take her off that farking pedestal!

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    Default Re: Can you help me perfect my direct approach? It's only worked 1 out of 2

    Yes just say hi as an intitial opener (unless there is a great situational opener you can utilize) and introduce yourself upfront. 'How is your day going?' is fine because it can lead off into many unknown directions and instantly gives you intel on their general attitude. Work off that because it is emotional based rather than factual. It's quite difficult to avoid a number of interview questions so I generally wouldn't be too concerned about asking them - the main point is that you can lead off them into more emotional humoress realms. I'd also avoid telling her she is cute. By approaching at all you have already said that. Perhaps say 'Oh cool hippy handbag' or 'oh nice bangles' or neg 'dressed like a lawyer on campus with sandals???' (be observant).

    Im not sure how many strangers on campus would accept a hug straight away but as you talk be close to her, bump her or be touching her in some way. I really dont advise just going up to a stranger on campus and hugging them upfront haha. Kino is more important in escalating attraction on a date and less important in approaching and getting a number or date hookup.

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    Default Re: Can you help me perfect my direct approach? It's only worked 1 out of 2

    If you continue to used canned material (approaches, openers, etc) on campus you WILL get called out on it and it WILL f*ck with your reputation. We call it cold approach pick up for a reason; in college you're going to be seeing the same girls again. The thought that you aren't is only an illusion.

    Get your inner game straight. Say whatever you want, whenever you want to. Don't get all pre-meditated. I can promise if you do this same approach a girl will call you out on it before you hit the double digits. Be unapologetically bold. Open however you want.
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    Default Re: Can you help me perfect my direct approach? It's only worked 1 out of 2

    Quote Originally Posted by Cody View Post
    If you continue to used canned material (approaches, openers, etc) on campus you WILL get called out on it and it WILL f*ck with your reputation. We call it cold approach pick up for a reason; in college you're going to be seeing the same girls again. The thought that you aren't is only an illusion.

    Get your inner game straight. Say whatever you want, whenever you want to. Don't get all pre-meditated. I can promise if you do this same approach a girl will call you out on it before you hit the double digits. Be unapologetically bold. Open however you want.
    Ok so say if I don't do the cold approach, there is a cute girl in my class. I caught her looking at me, and a conversation came up. So I broke the ice. Tommarow, after class I am gonna talk to her, I will find something. Her attire or the class or teacher. Say if I don't compliment her, just flirt. How will I ask her for her number? I don't want her thinking into friend zone turns at all. I will use negs and yeah. Can you help me on getting her number terms

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    Default Re: Can you help me perfect my direct approach? It's only worked 1 out of 2

    Quote Originally Posted by shymackin View Post
    Me: hey I have to go but we should continue over coffee. Give me your number and we are off.

    Any suggestions on making it better? Should I give her hug at end? After i compliment her, if she says I gotta a bf, how can I use the bf destroyer?
    Don't use "should" - it implies an external authority over you. Just say "Let's get coffee..." n-close.

    Also, for bf destroyer... no. Bf destroyer shouldn't be your go-to move when she mentions a bf. Guys need to stop using it so much. Don't go around just bf-destroying every relationship you start talking to in the first 3 minutes of daygame. It should be for girls that might be LTR material, or who you know to be in a bad relationship to begin with, but not for a FWB or a ONS - it's not worth destroying a relationship just to get your rocks off - we're PUA's/Men, not animals.

    Instead, do what Sasha does; ask if he's imaginary and what his name is - if she can't answer fast he's not real - if he's real ask if he's bigger than you, ask if he lifts, ask if he gives her the good lovin in the bedroom, tell her you're willing to share all that stuff, but not bf destroyer so early without knowing more about her.
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