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    Default Need tips for effective speaking

    What are sime ways to get a set hooked by effectivly speaking and making others reeled in and listening to you.I tend to stutter A LOT and I tend to get tongue twisters onA LOT of words what do you think is the solutions for this ?

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    Default Re: Need tips for effective speaking

    First off, don't speak fast. It comes across that you think people don't have time to listen to what you have to say. It helps to use pauses while your speaking to create suspense.
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    Default Re: Need tips for effective speaking

    BatMan's advice is on the money!

    It takes practice... especially when your adrenaline is pumping; but try to consciously think about slowing down. Take a couple long, deep breaths & relax before you begin speaking.

    Also- try to use a low, deep voice. That will automatically slow your speech rate down a bit.



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    Default Re: Need tips for effective speaking

    Talk about things you genuinely care about, if your passionate about something people will notice and it's far more interesting to listen to

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    Default Re: Need tips for effective speaking

    i have to agree with the above posters,you definately need to slow your speech down, take breathes when you pause, and speek with your diaphram,to fix your speech problems, i would recomend singing along with your favorite music (making sure to hit all the notes with your voice/use the same tone of voice as the lead singer) it will help you with many vocal problems, and you can use it as a warm up before going out in the feild

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    Default Re: Need tips for effective speaking

    But I'm passionate about pickup and I don't think I should talk about it to her.

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    Default Re: Need tips for effective speaking

    well surely there's at least one other thing you are passionate about, oh and btw i have talked to girls about pick up before, most of them just find it interesting and want to know more, then they try telling you it won't work on them, only to find themselves "under the spell" of my words, also i have discussed some stuff with good female friends only to have them want to help "fix" any problems i am encountering at the time talking about pua isn't a bad thing, but be were they will try to test you to see how good you realy are

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    Default Re: Need tips for effective speaking

    I love speaking and I totally understand what you mean by the whole stuttering issue. The best way to combat this is to read books on charismatic speaking and to actually watch people who are charismatic talk. I'm speaking of people like John F Kennedy, Obama, actors such as Brad Pitt, Jeremy Piven, hell even Hitler was charismatic (no offence to anyone who was affected by his actions) but you get the point. A simpler approach is to look at a character you really enjoy watching in films or on TV and is proven to have success with women through his speaking and try to emulate them.

    Quick tips right now would be to speak from your diaphragm, speak slowely (but not too slow, you don't want to sound like a monotonous robot) and maintain eye contact. Talk with passion and enthusiasm like you really enjoy talking. With your voice it should be up beat and energetic. My voice was boring and stale before I came and read about how to speak properly and people who I haven't seen in a year or so comment on how much fun it is to listen to me speak. Maintain the pace of your voice as well.

    A little pointer that's relevant to game that I also point out, is to listen and remember small details. Women love it when you remember details because it shows you care on some level about them (despite you not showing much interest) and not some douche that waits for them to babble only so you can get into their pants. Funny part is, that I was recently reading 50 Shades of Grey and the girl in it who was hopelessly attracted to this man (Christian Grey) always mentioned getting slightly excited whenever he would remember a small detail about her (such as preferring coffee to tea) and this raised her attraction even more for him.
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    Default Re: Need tips for effective speaking

    Thank You this was very helpful


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