Hey guys,how are you all? new to this so be gentle
Right down to it, and thanks for any help in advance. I met this girl about a month ago she's one of my best mates, sisters, mates. She ticks all the boxes she's hot (I'd say 8), young (about to turn 20, I'm in early 20's), and got great outlook on life, plus other things but I'm not going to get into that. From the start we hit it off dates were amazing, in space of the month we went on 6 dates and were texting every day (makes me think we went to fast). At first I played it cool as I was seeing other people too but when she would be out on a night she would text me 'your amazing' 'xxxxxxxxxx' stuff like that, and my mates sister was saying that she's crazy about me. So I decided to take it further and just pursue her.
The last date went swimmingly, she said that she was going to take me out, so we went to London had great time she paid for everything, even with me persisting to pay a share. We spent all day there together and that night found a pub where we talked (at this point I'm falling for this girl like proper AFC) where I said I got a mates party coming up do you want to be my '+1' which she agreed with a smile, she then said 'i like you but I hope your not just in this for sex' which I reassured her I wasn't (would've been nice though). On the train home we were all over each other then i put my arm round her and she snuggled up to me said this is nice then fell asleep (bearing in mind train ride was only an hour). I then walked her to her car kissed said goodnight. When she got home she text me saying 'I wish I'd asked you to come round xxxx' but it was late so I said how about tomorrow? She said 'yea we can snuggle xxxx'.
The next day she was out all day with her girl mates (I know she was with them) for a holloween thing but we were still texting, untill she stopped apparently because her phone died she said the next day and didn't get home till late, so impossible for me to go round. The next day was fine, at work but still texting until at the end of the day she TEXT! Saying 'she doesn't know how to say this but she doesn't want a bf, I'm a really nice guy but he can't do a relationship atm, we should stop seeing each other before we start to really like each other' ????? Where did that come from!!!!! So I went proper AFC on her telling her how much I like her is there someone else, to how she replied 'I need to think I'm confused xxxx''.
Went out yesterday for a mates bday (almost a weeks past with no contact as I refuse to chase her, a week that has hit me hard btw as I didn't think she would have such an impact on me within a month) and she was there as we have some mutual friends, I wasn't off with her just gave her kiss on the cheek said quick hi then carried on with my night,. My mates sister pulled me to the side and said sorry about what's happened she asked me how I was etc, I told her. She then said she thinks that she still does like you, but she goes after more of the bad boy and loves a chase and your (me) too nice. She's not seeing anyone else at the moment but she's just getting over a bad break up (the girl didn't want to talk about previous relationships as her motto was 'the past is the past') with a bloke who treated her badly then a 3yr relationship before that. But as the night wore on and we both had a few drinks (which I am paying for now with a rather large hangover) and when I tried to spark a conversation with her it was so awkward and we spent the rest of the night next to each other but back to back, and her and her mates left without saying bye.
Sorry for the length of this but I didn't want to miss anything out and have as much detail as possible. I do still like her but am moving on and starting to talk to someone else, I just would like her still in my life as we did get on and I would love to shag her possibly a fb if she doesn't want a relationship, but I can't see any way to do that as I'm not going to chase her like a pup and she's not contacting me, it's hard to believe that after such a great time together there must be something left, if I'm feeling like this and I don't normally feel like this about a girl, is she feeling the same?. There is an off chance that we see each other out now and again like last night. All my mates are saying let her come to you because I know if you ignore a girl or are off with her then she likes you more just through past experience but how can I rebuild attraction or cat string when we're not in touch and what would I say???? Normally I would just brush her off but there is/was somthing there and it's not like I'm never going to see her again, and still like her.
It's not like I don't know how to be around women my mates call me an 'accidental c***' because I accidentally treat women that I'm not interested in that way badly-but not on purpose you know negs and stuff, I have a lesbian mate and because of the way I treat her she wants to shag (thinking she might be more bi) but I am a nice bloke. But because I like this girl the way I normally am is out the window and I have no idea what to do I've gone all soppy and blurry..... Help please!!!! and thanks again