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    Kalskie is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Question In need of advice. persist or move on?

    so here's what's up,

    i dated this girl back in middle school. Didn't talk to her again until about a month & a half ago when I looked her up on Facebook.

    I reached out to her & we started talking & right off the bat, she seemed very interested. So I asked her out and we went & got some ice cream together. it was awesome, we talked for about 3 hours, we laughed & joked & flirted and everything seemed to be going perfect.

    To make a long story short, she has been very stand off-ish since then. Still, every time we text she will undeniably flirt with me but then the next day it is as if I don't exist anymore. I will leave her be for about a week or two, send her something cute, we start talking, flirting and then bam she hits me with the silence again, usually by not responding to my last text message.

    So I've let her be for the most part but I really like her & want to pursue a relationship with her. But she is giving me all the signs of not being interested. But whenever we talk she won't hesitate to flirt with me & of course I flirt right back. But as stated before, I get ignored again.

    It's been two weeks since I talked to her and she hasn't bothered to say a word to me. Last time I asked her to hang out, all she said was that she already had plans.

    So I am stuck. Is this playing hard to get, or is this a clear sign of not being interested?

    Would I be a fool to persist on trying to win her over or would I be wise just to move on?

    Thanks !

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    Default Re: In need of advice. persist or move on?

    Can you post one or two of the exchanges from start to finish when
    she stops replying. This will give readers a better idea of what is going
    on. Also how far along did things go on the date ? Did you kiss her,
    touch her ?

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    Kalskie is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Re: In need of advice. persist or move on?

    Yes of coarse i will post below.

    On the first date, i did touch her & she was showing a few, more subtle signs of interest such as playing with her hair and gazing at me. but i did not kiss her although i felt like i pretty much could have.. but didn't ::facepalm::

    Here is a little more info that i posted else where in another conversation :

    this is the third time we go without talking for an extended period of time.

    the first was a week, second was week. Then i sent her a cute picture which she loved & immediately began getting very flirty with me. at one point she began sending me a bunch of kissy emoticons and i replied with " nope, you're not allowed to do that with me yet, but thanks for the gesture creep-o" (jokingly) to which she replied " Lol i'm SURE i can do whatever i'd like to do with you " - not quite sure what that means, dunno if thats a good or a bad thing.

    Anyway, at the end of the convo she jokingly says she was going to post the picture i sent to her on Facebook and i playfully said "omg i knew you were a creep lol" (playfully of coarse) then she didn't respond after that. I text her a few hours later saying "I knew you wouldn't post it " and then she posted it ! lol but then she took it down some time afterwards. then a few hours later, i sent her a pic of myself with a funny mustache and asked her what she thought..... and thats when all communication died off for the past two weeks.

    When we've had more serious conversations they started off as cute messages with flirting and slowly turned into more serious topics (virginity, relationships, likes & dislikes etc)

    So she has already given me, at least in my eyes, CLEAR signs that she likes me plenty. BUT then she will turn around and completely ignore me for no apparent reason.

    And that is what puts me off and confuses me. And i wish i could get a more clear reasoning behind such actions.


    2nd:

    t wasn't a "reunion" . i said to her, hey you owe me a date (after she was unable to attend a previous one we agreed on) and afterwards she suggested we get ice cream. also, she insisted on paying for the both of us.

    Afterwards we sat down outside and talked for a good while, she laughed at most of what i said, seemed very interested in what i was saying, asked me many things about my personal life and about my past relationships and about my most recent girlfriend.
    she complimented me numerous times on different things about me physically & mentioned that she had never met anyone like me before. (im only stating this so you get an idea of what she was like on the date)

    You are absolutely right about her being able to have said something along the lines of "i have plans but let's do something on another date" but she didn't. i said "hey, i'm free tomorrow. let's hang out?" and she replied with " i have plans tomorrow" thats it. at that point i didn't bother to reply.

    And i have not spoken to her personally since we last saw each other. so everything that has been said between us since then has all been through text message. I wouldn't say ALL of the conversations we have are empty, as she's asked me about my virginity & told me about hers and how she's only had one boyfriend who she was with for 3 years broke up & has been single since blahh blahhh blah & some interesting stuff just getting to know each other better really. & then there's those times during the week where we talk and it really isn't about anything.


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    Default Re: In need of advice. persist or move on?

    My advice is to always create plenty of sexual tension and at
    the very least make out a bit on the first date. To me this
    is why you are experiencing the lulls in investment on her end.
    She liked you and had a good time but in the end you became
    just another friendly guy she can kill time exchanging texts
    with when she might be bored.

    I would stop seeming too eager to keep random conversations
    going. Turn things around on her by being the first to go silent
    some times when she seems into the conversation. Keep her
    wanting more rather than giving her too much.


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