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Thread: Girl is studying abroad-Am I getting used?

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    Default Girl is studying abroad-Am I getting used?

    I'm new to PUA but have started using the techniques recently. I've had a couple of dates with this girl in my class. The second date she slept at my place, but we did nothing past making out. After that she said she just wanted to be friends because she is studying abroad in Sweden next semester. I thought I would leave her alone but she keeps contacting me to hang out quite regularly. I always pay when we hang out. Nothing has escalated though since she spent the night. She's flirting with other guys but keeps coming back to me despite me leaving her alone. I'm confused

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    Default Re: Girl is studying abroad-Am I getting used?

    Look at it from her prespective; it's a WIN-WIN for both of you, because she gets free dates/emotional support (someone to listen) so that she can run emotion-free game on other guys, while you get to enjoy her company.

    That's the bullsh1t logic of what we call "ba11s deep in the friendzone"

    Yes, she's using you. If you're paying for things (cut that out btw) AND there's no escalation AND she's flirting with other guys, then yeah. Even if we give her the benefit of the doubt and assume that maybe she isn't doing it intentionally, then still by definition (one person gaining from a situation while the other gains little or nothing) she is using you.

    I had a similar chick like that recently (I didn't pay tho - call me old fashion, but I need to sleep with a girl at least three times before I'll buy her dinner), I ended up being a little more cold than might have been necessary, here's the FR if you're interested

    http://www.puaforums.com/pick-up-fie...ne-escape.html
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    Default Re: Girl is studying abroad-Am I getting used?

    Thanks! She invited me to coffee today but I don't think I'll pay this time. I'm a little bothered by being used and played but live and learn right?

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    Default Re: Girl is studying abroad-Am I getting used?

    Quote Originally Posted by aysoddy7 View Post
    Thanks! She invited me to coffee today but I don't think I'll pay this time. I'm a little bothered by being used and played but live and learn right?
    Stay chipper bro. Most guys have been there before and had it happen. Next time you will be able to spot that bs.
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