I'm a 28 year old guy with basically no PU experience at all; far from a male virgin but my relationships were more or less initiated coincidentally, and it's been a while since I had any.
Now there's this girl, Ive known her for like 1.5 years and during the whole time I've been trying to get her. Before I knew her, I was a loser with a beerbelly and no job, but meeting her somewhat made me realize I'd have to get my head outta my my ass if I wanted to be a match for a woman anywhere close to that. So here I am, with an apprenticeship training position as a programmer, an evolving sixpack and way more self-confidence. Not all just for her, but she kinda gave me the kick I needed. That girl really washed my head, but she refuses to get outta there...
We've become somewhat close friends, while both of us know I want more. Usually we get along fine, then there are crappy times when we have ugly drama sessions, and epic times when she sometimes even seems to apply IOIs and sh1t tests (which I honestly screwed up in the past). I stopped counting the people who tell me we'd make a perfect couple and how happy she seems when close to me etc etc, my pic may give you an idea.
Well, now out of the blue she asked via Facebook whether we'd still be friends if she got herself a BF, and "if not, we might never really have been". My point is usually "if you don't want a honest response, don't ask", so dumb me drove the whole, total AFC route, not for the first time... Guess you could say our friendship is dominated by me playing the AFC and her being the selector, she kinda often shows up late when me meet, if she doesnt blow the meeting completely (seems like a general habit of her, though), and thinks it's totally ok for her to be jealous when I talk to the HB9 who used to be her best friend ("...and you stared at her tits alltime!", which isn't even true, but she caring bout it might be a good sign).
So I found this forum and already read a bunch, just to find out I basically did the wrongest things I could do, in as many situations as possible, lol. Well, what I read gave me the feeling it's still doable, the question is where to start fixing things. Right now, trying the HmS method would most likely be pointless, as she is already questioning the value of our friendship atm. I'm thinking bout investing there, giving her some good time as a friend while fixing the AFC issue and make her gently realize she can't do whatever sh1t she wants, and when she's back to really enjoying spending time with me, kick the HmS stuff in.
Well, for now I'm in the "Overwhelming" part, there's so much stuff to read, so much stuff I already read and prolly gotta reread to have it stick in, and likely quite some stuff I haven't even found yet... Thus I'd appreciate any hints about details on how to work this out the right way, missing basics I might need, finding out where to start, or alternative options (giving up is none). I also got a "so we meet next weekend, ok?" from her which I don't really know what to do with, didn't reply yet and dunno if I should. She won't have access to the web till Friday anyways, and texting her doesn't feel like a good idea right now.
Well, any help is welcome... Thanks in advance and credits to all those who already posted those loads of useful stuff in here