So I met this girl through a mutual friend about 2 months ago. We hit it off instantly, exchanged numbers and started texting back and forth. She and her roommate threw a party 2 weeks later, and we made out (drunkenly) that night. Over the next month or so we made out probably 5-6 times, some drunk some not, but nothing serious. She kinda helped me get over my ex (just by making me realize that there are plenty of fish in the sea), and I started to like her.
We'd been texting/talking back and forth a lot over that month, even went camping together with a group of friends but it was pretty much me and her together all weekend. This past weekend she invited me to a party with a bunch of her college friends, knowing that I would know only a few people there...then proceeded to pretty much ignore me. Now I'm a pretty social guy, so that itself wasn't a big problem, I have little problem talking to strangers. The problem came when I saw her very openly and aggressively flirting with another guy. I was under the assumption that I was there WITH her. I didn't make a scene or anything, just pulled her aside when I got the chance and flat out asked her what was going on, didn't get angry or anything though, I was just honestly confused. She says "I don't know where this is coming from, we're just friends...just because we made out a few times doesn't mean anything" For the first time in my life I was actually speechless haha. Not really that big of a deal, but I just couldn't believe I had misread the situation so badly. I said "You're right it doesn't mean anything, but I was kind of hoping we could see where things go. You don't agree, that's your decision and that's fine, I respect it. Not a big deal." The party was starting to die down at this point, so I finish my drink and head out.
She said that she didn't want things to be weird between us ect, ect. I of course answer "no, not at all" but in my head I'm thinking "we're already past that point toots haha." Not that I'm hung up on this girl, but I do want the chance to close her, so I'm doing an experiment with the tactics I've read about getting out of the friend zone.
Last night I set up a date with a girl I worked with over the summer - she's a solid 9, and there was lots of flirting going on back and forth all summer but neither of us wanted to get involved with someone from work. Been there, always ends badly. Plus at the time I was still hung up on my ex, so that didn't help matters. We're going out tomorrow night for sushi at a place near me (she's pescatarian and loves sushi). It didn't occur to me at the time, but my roommate pointed out that the girl who friend zoned me often goes to this same place with her girlfriends on tuesdays for sushi night. I honestly didn't (consciously) even think of that before.
My question is if it would seem too soon and too obvious that I was trying to make her jealous if she were to see us? Seems like it could come off a bit desperate. I DO want to make her a little green, but wasn't planning on it yet. I wanted to freeze her out for a few weeks first and see how she responds to that, if she responds at all.