Re: Swedish HB8 travelling/living in my city - How do I recover?
First of all, stop asking her to come home with you. Regardless of whether your joking or not, it isn't working. You've effectively set am emotional anchor without intending too. She has linked you asking that to fear, I can almost guarantee that she will never come home with you if you keep doing that.
Secondly. Unless you don't speak very fluent English, the language barrier shouldn't be much of an obstacle considering most people in Sweden don't even speak Swedish anymore, they speak English, although it sounds very different. Pretty upset when I figured that out after spending 200 dollars on learning it. Nonetheless, if it is an issue, talk to her almost like you would talk to a kid learning to talk. Don't be mean about it either. A neg every once in a while is fine as long as its coupled with an IOI.
As far as what to do with her question, answer it and if she initiates conversation go ahead and participate but show less interest, space your replies and don't bug her constantly.
If she does ask you to join her at the club say " I could probably drop by after I'm done with (whatever else it is you have going on.)" don't make yourself too available over the next couple weeks, and show you have a life outside of being with her.
When you are there I would stick with kino escalation, if you need help with that talk to suave kino, he's a pro with it. One thing I can say about it is with her you don't want to rush the escalation, just cuz you can kiss her doesn't mean you should. If you rush straight in for the kiss, thats as far as its going to go id say after having seen how she already feels she's being rushed. Pace yourself.
Your going to want to push pull her a lot I would say because you want her trying to get you in bed rather than the other way around since her asd is getting the better of her
That will teach you how to keep disqualifying her to get her trying to win you over.
If i get a guy some a$$, he gets it for a day; if i teach him how to get it for himself, he's tappin forever