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    Default Think rationally-->Think playfully

    I think it is sexy of a man to think playfully. How can a "thinking rationally" man think playfully?
    "Think rationally" is a frame of mind while "think playfully" is another frame of mind and they contradict each other, do you think so?

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    Default Re: Think rationally-->Think playfully

    I think you're definitely on target with this. You have to hit that mental "switch" where you start thinking, "how can I make this conversation fun?" When you get there, you can misinterpret things, you can assume that she's thinking something, hell you can just blatantly make stuff up. But adding that element of FUN into the conversation is what makes people want to be around you.

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    Default Re: Think rationally-->Think playfully

    Quote Originally Posted by Sal_Paradise1439 View Post
    I think you're definitely on target with this. You have to hit that mental "switch" where you start thinking, "how can I make this conversation fun?" When you get there, you can misinterpret things, you can assume that she's thinking something, hell you can just blatantly make stuff up. But adding that element of FUN into the conversation is what makes people want to be around you.
    I think you are right, but how to hit that mental "switch"? Can you be more practical? I know what you said is correct, but I still don't know how to practise it.

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    Default Re: Think rationally-->Think playfully

    That's a good question and I wouldn't say I'm an expert at doing it myself. I honestly think it comes down to being aware that instead of trying to just "get through" conversations you should try to make them fun. Socializing is one of the best parts of life right? Enjoy it! Rather than going with the first thing that comes into your head, see if you can think of something fun to say.

    And this isn't just with hot women. Anytime you go out always be smiling and having a good time. What you say doesn't have to be comedy gold; if you just try to connect with people it will brighten their day. When you're checking out at the grocery store ask the cashier how she's doing. Comment that you think her name is really beautiful. Anytime you can give people a thoughtful compliment they will really appreciate it.

    Honestly, I'm not naturally the person who is always teasing and cracking jokes but the more I make an effort the better I feel throughout the day.

    And it doesn't have to be at every moment throughout the conversation. Most of the time, you're just talking regularly but you will feel those moments of tension where you can make a joke or observation to relieve the tension. It's just practice homie

    Edit: Also, you can de-brief interactions and think of things that you could have said. Or for fun the next time you're out just look around at the people and think of things you could say to them. You don't have say them at first but it could be a good first step and give you confidence that you can think creatively on the fly.

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    Default Re: Think rationally-->Think playfully

    I'm not an expert but I can tell you I had the same problem and how I got through it. You know the feeling you get when you think something is funny? Think of things that make you smile. Make your state light hearted and up beat. Then if your already having fun your conversation will be too.

    It kinda feeds on itself. You just have to start with the right state and then it all falls into place. Put yourself in a happy playful state feel good and playful and your state will project that because it is genuine.

    Just think of things that make you feel happy and playful.


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