What I mean is that you probably have alot of the qualities you need to be good with women inside of you now. You are a man. You were made to be with women. You have qualities they like, I guarantee it. But you need to get them out and perhaps learn how to enhance them.
Its like a meal. You have appetizers, a main course, and dessert. If you started with dessert, and lots of it, it might be fun but you would find it less satisylng. That is what you (and other guys) are doing. Your giving a woman what you THINK she wants (because who doesnt like alot of dessert?). Dessert = Attention, caring, sweetness, compliance, let her control... I mean who doesnt want that????
But what you must learn is to change how you are putting yourself out there.
THE MEAL (Your qualities) ESSENTIALLY REMAINS THE SAME... YOU ARE JUST LEARNING HOW TO PRESENT IT PROPERLY.
So even though some girls swear they want to start with a triple sized helping of "dessert" you give them the appetizer, main course and then dessert. They may not want to do that, they may get mad, they may have to work more than they wanted to to get to the dessert.
But in the end, they cant believe how much more satisying the experience is.