I do not know if this is the proper forum area for this, but it is something that I need to get off my chest.
See, for the longest time I have been very shy and have had no action or skills with women. I have never been on a date, never been kissed, still a virgin, yadda yadda.
See, over the past few months I have been on a very large self improvement kick. Armed with my Kindle I have purchased a few self improvement books, most of which on attracting women and becoming the type of guy women love to be around.
But as with any change, there is fears. my fears are that if I adopt the various forms of advice or traits that these books instill or teach, that there is going to be more negatives than positives. that the changes are the wrong ones. So after i am done reading a book, I am hesitant or do not attempt to make the suggested changes. however, I have no way of telling if this is a legit thing or just my old, over thinking and cautious personality self sabotaging my progression.
I remember a quote from Neil Strauss that I thought really clicked for me. He said that we should not try to be ourselves, but become our best selves. That is what I want. to take the positive traits I already have, do away with the damaging ones, and introduce new, foreign ones that will build me into the best ME I can be.
Does anyone have any advice or guidance in my current search for answers?