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Thread: Need help with my inner game and self confidence.

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    Default Need help with my inner game and self confidence.

    Right from when i was a kid, my parents always locked me in, i didn't go out or socialize unless when i was in school, and in school i never cared about having fun or making friends. When i got to high school, i realised i was shy and timid, i couldn't have a conversation with anyone. I always hid myself, i didn't want to be noticed. I couldn't stand my age mates, they could threaten and scare the hell out of me. When i was towards my final year in high school, i tried to make friends and have fun, but i couldn't. I didn't have things to say, i couldn't approach any gal. Even in class i couldn't ask a question. I had low self esteem, i had no confidence in myself. I read a lot of online articles on self confidence and self hypnosis, but i still remained the self. Whenever i go out, i always receive dozens of IOI's from other girls but i just can't approach them because am not sure of what to say when i meet them. For 3 years now, am still struggling with this problem. Please help.

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    Default Re: Need help with my inner game and self confidence.

    Here is a post by Civilian about general good convo: (answering the question what do I say after 'hello'?)
    http://www.puaforums.com/how-flirt/3...versation.html

    Here are two of mine, the first one is about how to essentially plan out your conversation specified to game
    http://www.puaforums.com/how-talk-gi...logy-eine.html

    The second is about how to transition from one topic to another
    http://www.puaforums.com/how-talk-gi...logy-eine.html

    Basically the way that this might help your innergame issues is if you learn to have a good convo, then go out and do so, it won't be such a big obstacle.
    Last edited by Autismus; 11-16-2012 at 08:01 PM. Reason: clarity
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    Default Re: Need help with my inner game and self confidence.

    Have you ever thought about joining some classes or something that would put you around other people?

    I recommend taking Autismus' advice. Second working on being around people i.e. joining a class or something to put you in a social environment make some new friends or maybe you become more confident.
    Take her off that farking pedestal!

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    Default Re: Need help with my inner game and self confidence.

    The kids who tried to demean you were not much more well
    adjusted than you were. Ask yourself this, if you
    possessed solid self confidence and high self esteem
    would waste your time hassling those who had none ?
    You would be too busy doing more important things
    that you wanted to do because you believed
    you could do anything. Insecure people demean other
    insecure people in an attempt to feel better about
    themselves.

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    Default Re: Need help with my inner game and self confidence.

    I have been studying the books and techniques for a few months and got most of the principles down but have been struggling with getting the courage to open a set for weeks. I got past my confidence thing with a $6 hypnosis audio book for self esteem. "Build your self-esteem" by Glenn Harrold. I had no expectation of it working. The first time I listened to it I felt welll rested and a little clearer in my thoughts. The recording tells you to listen over and over for increased effect. To my surprise the second time I listened to it I felt a euphoria like nothing I have ever experienced. I was overwhelmed with a feeling of pure joy and felt like the burden of years of negative thoughts about myself were removed. Since then I have been more relaxed and self confident!
    Today I ran my first set. I got some great ioi's and after 10 minutes or so I saw the ioi's fading so I looked at my phone to see the time and turned toward my car as if I was thinking of leaving. She quickly re-engaged asking me questions about my self. Cha- Ching! Number close and she called once already! I officially transitioned to PUA today!

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    Default Re: Need help with my inner game and self confidence.

    Start by thinking of yourself as a friendly social person in your everyday life. Don't worry about talking to girls right away just think about being more social in small spurts.

    For example, if you're getting a coffee, or something from McDonalds, etc., when you get your order, as you leave, make eye contact with the cashier/barrista/whatever and say thanks, have a nice day, smile and walk away (even if its a guy). Just a little thing but its baby steps towards being more social and building confidence. Do these type of things as often as you can. Be friendly, be positive. Another example if your waiting for your order, just say something like crazy hot day, or man it's been raining to long, whatever, just idle chit chat. Do this in your every day life, it may sound lame but its a start. Apply this to any situation as much as you can. You will find yourself engaging people, making conversations, and building your confidence which you can later apply to chicks.

    Sklar

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    Default Re: Need help with my inner game and self confidence.

    just put yourself out there and keep on having fun you will gain a lot of confidence
    Nice guys don't finish last, boring guys does.


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