Okay, so I started looking at pickup around June 2011. I read everything I could that was free. Youtube, forums, and free content from PUA's. I read all this stuff and thought I was learning it all (which I was) but still until November 2011 I still hadn't approached any girls. Finally at the beginning of November I started a journal to help me put my thoughts on paper and really see what I wanted. Long story short, this helped a ton and FINALLY I approached my first girl. Before I start this story I have to let everyone know I'm a decent looking guy, I dress well, and I'm also good at most things I put my mind to. I don't say this to brag but to let you know I had absolutely no reason to scared of girls or anyone for that matter. But that wasn't, isn't how I am. I'm terrified of approaching, and I try to avoid actually looking at the girl. So I start this journal and figured out the only way to get out of my shell is to not dive in like they do at boot camps, but take slow steps to get to where I want to be. So in my journal I made my first step to walk up to one pretty girl, and give her one compliment. This sounds easy and is but in reality I couldn't even think of doing this.
Okay so I was working and my boss and I went out to lunch at Panera. The night before i wrote in my journal: one girl, one compliment. Okay, so were sitting there eating when I see a pretty girl walk in and my heart dropped. In my head I'm thinking, this is it, all I have to do is give her one compliment and I can eject and run away. Side note, I was working so I wasn't dressed how I like, I felt like I smelt, and I just got done eating a turkey sandwich with mustard, onions, and other stuff, so my breath wasn't exactly minty fresh. So I finished my meal, was getting a refill when my boss said "You ready to go?" In my head I said this is it, so I told my boss "I'll meet you outside, I have to go talk to this girl" Right after that my body just started walking towards her, really felt like I was out of control and I had to do this. She was sitting alone, texting on her phone. I walked over to her while she was still looking down, I pulled out the chair across from her and sat down.
From what I learned I knew I needed to smile and make strong eye contact. I did that, and with a big smile on my face I looked her in the eye and said "You know, you're way to pretty to be sitting here all by yourself." She lit up, it was like I was prince charming coming to sweep her away. (Don't worry, the rookie mistakes are on the way.) She didn't know what to say, so to respond to what i said, she said "Oh but i brought my book." I had her hooked already and I didn't even realize it. So she transitioned my opener for me so it was easy to just say "What book?" She said "Just some stupid book for college." I said "What class?" (Don't worry my mistake wasn't interview mode.) She answered "Marriage psycology and counseling." I said "Oh that's awesome so you want to help people. I also want to help people by making them feel good. I'm thinking of becoming a massage therapist, because I can find out people's problems, talk through with them, and I can make them feel good with my hands. Oh, and my girlfriend will love me for that." So i made a commonality with her and I qualified myself in one stroke of my voice. Okay now for the juicy part where I mess up. She had invested and asked me "Do you live down here?" I say "No, I live in Blah Blah, but I'm down here working. What about you?" I was so stupid to not see all her IOI's but anyway. She said "I live down here working as a nanny, and I go to school at blah blah." This girl was ready to be swept away by me but I had already done what I said I was gonna do, one girl, one compliment. Anyway, I joked with her and said "Wow, you really want to be a mom." She laughed and I forgot what she said. So at this point I've done everything great, now comes for the close right? At this point I felt nervous as hell and said to her "Listen, I have to get back to work, but I just had to let you know that." She said "Oh my god thank you, you really just made my day." I gave her a big sexy smile and ejected.
So from this I learned: 1.) Don't go into a set looking for anything but to get to know that girl, and go as far as you can with her because cutting off to early or forcing something freaks them out. 2.) CLOSE CLOSE CLOSE. I didn't ask for her number because we live 20 miles apart. After I said that in my mind, I realized, you vagina, stop making excuses. 3.) Have confidence in you are the prize and this girl is lucky you're talking to her. I know I'm not like this but I need to think like this until I get a girl in a 2nd and 3rd meeting.
Okay, so from all this info (I'm sorry it's alot) What should my next step be? I still have AA and need a small step that I can take, so your guys' advice would be great!!