I want to transition from a friend to something more, and as a newbie I am unsure of what techniques to use and where to search for answers about getting out of the dreaded friend zone.
I have known my target for a while and I will admit that initially there was a visibly mutual attraction. There was light teasing, flirting and even play fighting. Our co-workers were always teasing us and saying how great we look together. I failed to pull the trigger when i should have and now I am ultimately stuck in the friend-zone. I tried asking her out a couple of times, but nothing had gone well for me at all. She does seem to value our friendship however, and when I felt that I lost my chances to be a possible suitor, I began asking her for advice and things of that nature. She gave me great constructive criticism! She pointed out that I was quiet, and that I came off as self conscious and unconfident. I had just moved from NYC to upstate NY, so I had lost all my friends, social proof and other sorts of verifications I was accustomed to. After looking at a couple of PUA videos, I was made aware of a lot of things I was doing wrong, and I noticed these were things she pointed out as well. I also observed that she leads a more exciting life than I do currently. Being that I am fairly new to this town, I rarely go out, and I really don't have anything to offer her very social life. I like this girl a lot, and I felt the only way to gain validation was to somehow prove my value through preselection and my social intelligence. So I began showing her my past conquests and I friended her on Facebook showing her my pretty crazy past. I even got a hot friend from brooklyn to pretend to be a current love interest. She seemed really excited to see this side of me. So fast forward to last friday, I made a post about wanting to see the movie Twilight Breaking Dawn pt.2 on Facebook. She responded to my post saying she wanted to see it also and asked me to text her. I bought tickets via Fandango and I met her at the theater. It seemed like things were going well. She got really dolled up and was really receptive. We walked arm in arm and she allowed me to put my arm around her waist as well. And throughout the movie there was light subtle touching, although it remained pretty non secular. I thought we were connecting, however after the movie I tried to ask her to go to the bar with me, and she was so not down with it. So all in all we only saw the movie and did nothing more. So now I am totally lost. I almost feel like I should give up. I was wondering if there was enough here to attempt moving forward with her or is this just a lost cause? Is there any literature that could help me turn this around?