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    Default Is too much DHV a bad thing ?

    Hi there

    Thumbs up for your great website and community.

    I would like to share an experience of mine, and maybe seek confirmation for something that I've been asking myself for the last few years...

    I own a company, and some of my family members are really important people.

    The thing is, whenever my game has been very smooth, I haven't had to put any of those into play and never expressed any information out of those, specifically. I don't think this has anything to do about being mysterious... because you can still manage to be by not saying too much.

    It feels like whenever i meet people and start pointing out those infos - especially if i go too far - the HB would get stressed out, or might think I'd better keep this guy as a friend... or even maybe one day he could become my boss (who knows?).

    Anyway, the thing is when I talk about those things and demonstrate a value that is too high, my chances are 4 to 5 times less to achieve any further action than when I don't say anything about my profesionnal life and personal situation.

    BTW, a quick question to you guys : I usually lie about my age and say I'm 27 when in reality i'm only 25. If the chick is 24 or 25 I feel like she's really aiming for more (obviously when they are older you can't say you're that yong). What do you think ?

    Thanks for your input!

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    Default Re: Is too much DHV a bad thing ?

    I'm no PUA but I do know that you need to be totally confident within yourself - Inner Game - and love yourself for who you are.

    I don't understand why you would need to lie about anything - if someone wouldn't like you for the sake of a couple of years then why would you want to know them at all?

    As for too much DHV. If you tell people you first met about how you own your own business and have important family then this could come across as you trying too hard to impress them. People could see this as a sign of a lack of self-confidence. I would if anyone I met did this to me.

    Both these points are interlinked. Be confident within yourself of the person you are, not your job, social status or age.

    If people don't like you for who or what you are, then they aren't worth knowing. Remember that and don't seek validation from anyone. Ever.

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    serendipity is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Re: Is too much DHV a bad thing ?

    Hi Learning the ropes

    Thanks for your feedback.

    There's something I forgot to mention. The issue isn't about people not liking me... but rather that it creates distance.

    When I'm traveling outside - and while I'm being a foreigner I don't have issues with it because I'm a tourist.

    But here locally, sometimes i get qualified as "boyfriend material" and chicks start playing the good girls that never sleep with guys.

    Anyway, I'll try to find a good balance in information output to remain mysterious, while also providing minimal information after being asked.

    BTW, I know what you mean - I never say anything personal about me unless I'm specifically asked by the other person.

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    Default Re: Is too much DHV a bad thing ?

    Learning the ropes has some solid advise there.

    Never lie to a women. Remember that true PUA's never lie to/ cheat on or disrespect women. Not saying that you cheat or disrespect women but don't lie. I read somewhere that the only time you can lie to a women is when she asks you how many women you have been with before her haha

    If you are asked about your personal life it means she is showing interest. That doesn't mean you have to tell her every detail. Keep her interested and find creative ways to answer those personal questions. Like instead of saying "I own my own business" you could say your an "entrepreneur" or something along those lines and let her figure out that you have important family don't just bring it up. That way you don't sound like your bragging

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    Default Re: Is too much DHV a bad thing ?

    Hey bro. Like Supremo said don't seek validation. Too much or too little of anything is bad in PUA, I see it that way anyway. Don't overdo it or you'll just seem like you're bragging, undergo it and you'll seem to lack confidence and value.

    For forget to listen to other people's DHVs too. They're not competition because no one is higher value than you, that's the frame you need. The alpha male makes people feel good about themselves, praise them and take interest in their achievements.

    All the best,

    : GeMiNi :&

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    Default Re: Is too much DHV a bad thing ?

    Hey man, all I can say is keep a mystery to you all the time. Do not lie about your age, not really alpha. Make her guess...then never tell her.

    Her: How old are you?

    You: Take a guess

    Her: Guess 27....

    You: Move on to the next routine

    Also, yes, you don't want to come off as bragging. Make yourself look interesting and fun, but don't brag. Girls, especially waitresses/bartenders always complain about AFC talking about all their cash and good jobs. Don't fall into that trap.

    You can jokingly say: I am kind of a big deal (DHV) but this isn't a job interview. You're going to lose me with those type of questions how about you tell me about...(Change routine, next string) So keep her attracted, then slip your high position by bits in the conversation but keep the mystery.

    Good luck man, hope it helps


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