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    Default Social Game - Improving Your Social Skills

    Hey gang, couldn't quite figure out the appropriate forum to talk about this, so mods if there's a better suited one please feel free to move it!

    I want to talk a little about social game in general, and how improving your skills socially with people in general, not just potential targets, can have a massive impact on your game, at least it has for me.

    Some background, I've been working at a remote construction project for the past 13 months. There are approx. 2000 people around at all times, and we all live in hotel-like establishments. No shortage of pretty girls.

    Now I've never been shy, but in a working environment I usually keep to myself. I'll participate in meetings, befriend those I have the most dealings with, etc., but for the most part I only speak when it's business oriented.

    Just a few months ago, all that changed. I started to show my true colors, befriending more people, and establishing myself socially. I made the effort to talk to more people. As a result, my social profile has skyrocketed, and my female game at work has been extremely successful.

    First of all, talk to everyone. This can be anything from eye contact and a good morning, to making small talk for a few moments. Especially at work, you see a lot of the same people, what's stopping you from acknowledging their existence? I banter with everyone, have a few laughs, and people see that.

    Befriend females. Just because a female isn't a potential target based on your interests, doesn't mean that she can't be an ally. All my life I was a guy's guy. I wasn't interested in having female friends, I'd rather drink beer with the guys and play and watch sports, and sarge together. Way to pigeonhole myself. Recently I've befriended a heavyset girl at work, and we've actually become very good friends, and what an ally to have in my game. This accomplishes two things, one, girls see you with another girl and wonder if you're seeing one another. Interest piqued. Secondly, it immediately tells them that you're comfortable around women, and not a creep. You wouldn't believe how many girls have asked my new friend about me, the classic "What's he like?". This friendship isn't for selfish reasons, but it certainly has its benefits.

    Which brings me to my next point, people talk. Even the smallest conversation you have with someone while waiting for an elevator can help your game. Be charming and positive with everyone. There are a group of girls here that have a couple of potential targets. Even when I see the non-targets, I chat them up, make them laugh. How much do you want to bet that when they're with their target friends later and I walk past they mention how funny/nice I am?

    And very importantly, kino. Whether it's one of my employees, a client, a colleague, whatever, I use kino. Just putting your hand on someone's shoulder connects with them, and says "I'm here, and I'm not intimidated by you". If you're comfortable putting your hand on a 250lb construction worker's shoulder, how comfortable do you think you'd be touching a pretty girl's arm?

    In conclusion, do not underestimate of upping your social profile in general, and the impact it can have on your game. Carry yourself as if to say "I am personable, and I am comfortable with people". Don't pigeonhole yourself. People notice, and people talk. Doesn't matter if you're a comedian or an asshole, there's a saying that "No press is bad press". Get noticed.

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    Default Re: Social Game

    Great post. My little 2 cent addendum- people love positive energy. If they see you're upbeat, smiling, friendly, and enjoying yourself they'll want a part of that. Good vibes really do transfer. Also, people like people that listen. If you show a genuine interest in someone they will love you.

    Thanks for this post, I really needed it. It's stuff I know but too often forget.

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    Default Re: Social Game - Improving Your Social Skills

    Great post. I already knew everything you said pretty much, and I want to do it, but I struggle to be what I know I should and want to be. I struggle at starting conversations, enjoying myself, and having fun. A lot of times I can't come up with something to say, and being humorous is very difficult for me. So, I know what the right thing to do is, and I want to do it, but executing is very difficult. It doesn't matter where I am - work, school, a social event, etc. - befriending people has been a challenge. I'm making some effort though to improve my social skills and overcome shyness. It will be a process.


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