Re: How to not pay for everything and not seem cheap?
Who says it has to be a date? Tell her if it was a date then she'd be paying for everything. It is the 21st century lol.
If you want to be nicer about it then split things. Tell her that you'll cover food and she'll cover drinks. Tell her you'd let her pay for everything, but you don't want to feel like you owe her something at the end of the night.
I like the ones that think old school. They are the ones most judgmental because you aren't paying. And just like Juggler says, every judgement is a commitment. You want her judging you so she is mentally and emotionally investing in you.
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