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Thread: Anxiety wating for girlfriend to text back. Suggestions?

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    Default Re: Anxiety wating for girlfriend to text back. Suggestions?

    Now I wanted to ask another question directly related to what were talking about. At what point is it appropriate to ask a girl "anything wrong? You haven't been acting like yourself the past couple days" or asking them why they are seeming distant?

    With this situation I have been describing with my gf, I know yesterday (and in general) she is particularly stressed out about school. I get this and can cut her a break there, but it still just surprises me and kind o brings my mood down as she's not been acting like herself (happy texting , phone calls, planning next hang outs etc.

    I am trying to give her some space, for instance have not talked to her today at all yet (unusual for both of us), but am tempted to ask her what's wrong if it continues. Do it or don't even think about it? It has to be appropriate at some point...?

    Also, don't get the wrong impression that I'm just sitting around freaking out. Just looking for some play by play advice. Thanks guys for the thoughts!

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    Default Re: Anxiety wating for girlfriend to text back. Suggestions?

    You're wondering if asking your gf if she is ok is a good move? Either you been in PUA for too long or haven't had many relationships. Either way you should be smacked.
    Lol no, but seriously, I went through the same thing when first starting. Thinking that showing you care was beta are what punks do. Well I'm here to tell you it's wrong. Pickup is about using emotions to your advantage, not hide from them and be "cool"all the time. That's for amateurs.

    If you study Mystery Method then you know one of the attraction switches is Willingness to Emote. So knowing when and how much emotion to show your woman is an art in itself and is not beta. In short...go and ask her what the fark is wrong and be supportive, but not a pushover.
    "All things are subject to interpretation. Whichever interpretation prevails at a given time is a function of power and not truth."

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    Default Re: Anxiety wating for girlfriend to text back. Suggestions?

    Quote Originally Posted by BatMan View Post
    You're wondering if asking your gf if she is ok is a good move? Either you been in PUA for too long or haven't had many relationships. Either way you should be smacked.
    Lol no, but seriously, I went through the same thing when first starting. Thinking that showing you care was beta are what punks do. Well I'm here to tell you it's wrong. Pickup is about using emotions to your advantage, not hide from them and be "cool"all the time. That's for amateurs.

    If you study Mystery Method then you know one of the attraction switches is Willingness to Emote. So knowing when and how much emotion to show your woman is an art in itself and is not beta. In short...go and ask her what the fark is wrong and be supportive, but not a pushover.
    Thanks, good advice. I have actually had quite a few GF's, probably along the like of 10-15 where we actually classified as a couple. One as long as 4 years, but recently alot have been only a few months etc, both as to my fault, and theirs. So I'm not at a lack of experience, I'm just rethinking what I do sometimes, because I can be man enough to admit, I have done things that could come accross as needy or clingy in the past with girls that I really fell for (as well as I've had clingy Gf's, just can't win haha).

    I'm glad to hear that someone has an opinion that its not beta to ever be caring or emotional when in a relationship as a guy, it seems to be consensus that it is. I just am trying to find the correct balance, between caring, and not coming accross as too easy or needy that she might lose attraction.

    As a side note to this, things seem to have straigntend out for the most part with this GF situation. I backed off yesterday with the contact, not entirely. And she actually got into a better mood, texted me few times, then called me on her way home from work and it was if nothing was wrong at all. Aka me freaking out about nothing. She still isn't texting me the "goodmornings" and affectionate names (babe, hun, etc), but who knows maybe she was just getting a little sick of that idk, I'll leave it be.

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    Default Re: Anxiety wating for girlfriend to text back. Suggestions?

    Hey bud,

    When your in a relationship YES!!!!asking her whats wrong? is a must!...

    on a side note, you should google " Anxious attachment Style/disorder" . YOU might learn a few things about yourself. I kind of do this sometime, and am just now uncovering the reason why. Its really interesting to look at!!

    Cheers bud


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