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Thread: Anxiety wating for girlfriend to text back. Suggestions?

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    Default Anxiety wating for girlfriend to text back. Suggestions?

    Hey guys. I've kind of always had this issue, and its something I am trying to get over, so helpful suggestions or thoughts would be appreciated.

    Things have been going great (for the most part, always some bumps in the road occasionally!) with my current girlfriend of about 2-3 months.

    Last night she spent the night, everything went great, I had to work in the am so we both left kind of early, on seemingly great terms (kiss goodbye, text me later, etc).

    I didn't feel like texting her at all this morning since I was just with her (give it a break), but after lunch around 1pm I shot her two quick texts basically saying "hey babe hows it going" and "its busy over here.. what you up to, doing your paper?"

    ... and now have not heard anything back for going on 2 hours. This is unusual for her, unless she is swamped at work (not working today though), napping (kind of weird to be napping at 2pm) etc.

    I know it shouldn't be a big deal, but thoughts instantly start filling my mind about various scenarios: Maybe she got in a car accident? Maybe she's secretly pissed about something from this weekend, and I won't hear from her again? Maybe she's chillin at some other dude's house..? etc. I try to stay busy, but until I hear back from her, it drives me nuts, and I'm constantly checking my phone and tempted to text her "are you ok?" again or call.

    I know I make myself sound insecure with this deal, but its a girl I really care about, and I can't help it in a situation like this. Suggestions?

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    Default Re: Anxiety wating for girlfriend to text back. Suggestions?

    Quote Originally Posted by Rando9009 View Post
    Hey guys. I've kind of always had this issue, and its something I am trying to get over, so helpful suggestions or thoughts would be appreciated.

    Things have been going great (for the most part, always some bumps in the road occasionally!) with my current girlfriend of about 2-3 months.

    Last night she spent the night, everything went great, I had to work in the am so we both left kind of early, on seemingly great terms (kiss goodbye, text me later, etc).

    I didn't feel like texting her at all this morning since I was just with her (give it a break), but after lunch around 1pm I shot her two quick texts basically saying "hey babe hows it going" and "its busy over here.. what you up to, doing your paper?"

    ... and now have not heard anything back for going on 2 hours. This is unusual for her, unless she is swamped at work (not working today though), napping (kind of weird to be napping at 2pm) etc.

    I know it shouldn't be a big deal, but thoughts instantly start filling my mind about various scenarios: Maybe she got in a car accident? Maybe she's secretly pissed about something from this weekend, and I won't hear from her again? Maybe she's chillin at some other dude's house..? etc. I try to stay busy, but until I hear back from her, it drives me nuts, and I'm constantly checking my phone and tempted to text her "are you ok?" again or call.

    Suggestions?
    DUDE CALM THE F1CK DOWN!

    right ypu have a bigger problem if you react like this... you need to fill your time with something else. If you carry on like this you will smother her and she will leave! go for a run, catch up with a friend get another hobby and stop being clingy

    DO NOT TEXT HER BACK ITS BEEN 2HRS! I was with my gf for 2 years and when we were really close we sometimes used to go whole days without a word! it is normal in a distance relationship!

    This may sound harsh but it is for your own good!

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    Default Re: Anxiety wating for girlfriend to text back. Suggestions?

    Nah I got you. Sure enough shortly after I posted this question, I got a text back from her. Been busy working on a paper... My bad!

    And I hear ya, but I really havn't been smothering her at all or over texting her. I'd say its about 65/35% in that department, with her taking the lead most of the time. Just was unusual for her to take that long and kind of freaked out haha

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    Default Re: Anxiety wating for girlfriend to text back. Suggestions?

    Well you're in the crazy passion early stage so its normal. But remember, maintain a life outside of her... ironically it will help you keep her ; )

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    Default Re: Anxiety wating for girlfriend to text back. Suggestions?

    Very common if you don't have much experience or if you put a lot of stock into her emotionally. Which is making you insecure.

    Always give her the benefit of the doubt. Cause there's a good chance she is doing nothing. Always think that every guy makes you look better. And always.....always know that you are the most important person in the relationship. Take her off the pedestal because all girls sh1t, burp, and fart.
    "All things are subject to interpretation. Whichever interpretation prevails at a given time is a function of power and not truth."

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    Default Re: Anxiety wating for girlfriend to text back. Suggestions?

    get another girl to text to keep your mind off of it.thats why your supposed to date up to five girls at a time. keeps you from thinking/worrying about one in particular
    If i get a guy some a$$, he gets it for a day; if i teach him how to get it for himself, he's tappin forever

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    Default Re: Anxiety wating for girlfriend to text back. Suggestions?

    Quote Originally Posted by daltonbrayall View Post
    get another girl to text to keep your mind off of it.thats why your supposed to date up to five girls at a time. keeps you from thinking/worrying about one in particular
    Already past this stage. I was seeing multiple girls. I chose her, and we are in an actual relationship now, so I'm not interested in ruining it by seeing other girls behind her back. Ever heard of being exclusive?

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    Default Re: Anxiety wating for girlfriend to text back. Suggestions?

    yeah it rings a bell, sorry, dont even remember replying to this.
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    Default Re: Anxiety wating for girlfriend to text back. Suggestions?

    Batman, Daltonbrayall, and Sidewinder gave you some good information because you need to calm down. Lucky for you she texted you back because you were going to blow a gasket! You need to find something to fill your time because you are becoming to clingy and needy and that my friend will drive her away. I know you are in an exclusive relationship but if you keep acting the way you are you will be in one by yourself.

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    Default Re: Anxiety wating for girlfriend to text back. Suggestions?

    Quote Originally Posted by flyer1 View Post
    Batman, Daltonbrayall, and Sidewinder gave you some good information because you need to calm down. Lucky for you she texted you back because you were going to blow a gasket! You need to find something to fill your time because you are becoming to clingy and needy and that my friend will drive her away. I know you are in an exclusive relationship but if you keep acting the way you are you will be in one by yourself.
    Good info guys. Definatly not brand new information, I know I shouldn't act that way, but sometimes its good to have a couple of people pound it at you so it sinks in again..!


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