No man, you need to do this in person. Tyler from RSD says that "field experience is king". After awhile, or even trying a few openers you will see what I mean. You learn so much, just by walking up and taking control of a situation. You condition, your mind, your emotions, and your body, for womans responses. None of this can be learned online, or by reading. Reading too much info actually will screw you up.
Get out there!
i played a game with my friend.. he picks a girl and i have to approach in less then 5 seconds or i have to pay a certain amount of cash chosen before if i don't approach.. that way you will talk to any girl because you don't wanna lose cash.. (and i pick a girl to him after)
The Worst thing I can be is the same as everybody else. I'd Hate that!
I read the game and the Mystery Method and constructed routines, practised on friends and girls I knew for the sake of it and revised until it was hammered into my brain. Then one day I was sat at my computer, it was 10pm on a hot thursday night and I was bored shitless, my bestfriend was with his gf and no one else was doing anything. That's when I got up said "fuck it", went to a club and started running routines. Same night I got a HB9's number and it elevated my confidence to the point where I didn't want to stop.
Just do it, whats the worse that can happen?
I am only responsible for what I say, not what you understand - The proverb of a true activist.
I'm not driven by fear, I'm driven by Danger
I had to do a short survey for a class I was taking and that helped a lot. Just knowing that people are generally really friendly was a pretty big turning point for me. from there approaching girls in clubs was a natural transition.
First time I ran a cold approach I went out with the intention of testing PU tactics. Walked into the club and approached the first set I saw and got blown out, it hurt so little that for the rest of the night I was on fire and left with a k close and 3 numbers. Honestly just get out there it's soo much easier than you expect it to be
when approaching girls daytime; SHould i approach from behind; the side; or front?
Maybe approach from the side then go in front of them?
The whole reject me DRE routine i don know about it.. sounds really weird to say that; but what do i know; Im absolutely horrified to approach; i don't think its about rejections but who knows; I Just feel this overwhelming excitement/fear feeling; u guys know what i mean..
I wonder if you just keep facing the fear if it ever goes away? or maybe look at it as positive excitement and not as a bad thing and keep doing it
Cire113, I understand your feelings about it. And if it feels weird for you, you probably shouldn't do it. One thing about doing openers I have learned is that, the more fun I have doing them, by the law of state transfer the more fun the girl will have.
One opener that is pretty generic and is pretty common in the community "Hey tell me something, who lies more guys or girls?" I hate that opener. Its boring too me, so when I open with it, the girls are bored.
Btw, I am still terrified at times to open. I usually walk around downtown for about 3 hours before I have the nerve to do one approach. But my confidence has definately increased!
Have you ever heard of the "Better Man" App for either iPhone or Android? You should get that app! Neil Strauss developed it and it is an awesome AA tool.
For example some of the missions in the beginning are to walk up to anyone and ask them if they speak french. As soon as one says yes, you say "oh I don't" and walk away. Next would be go up to woman on the street and ask for directions to the coolest clothing store for men.
Then the missions get harder, such as getting random girls to feel your muscle. And do qualification routines, etc.
I don't know why I still have AA. According to the experts they still feel it, but they do it anyways.
My current job is too cold call people about buying insurance. When I started I had terrible AA. But after about 6 months every day doing it, I don't let it stop me anymore. So I figure the more approaches I do, the less I would be apprehensive.
And to answer your first question about how to approach. NEVER EVER approach from behind. Approach always from the side, as if you are approaching a horse. In front is too confrontational. It can be done. But it is too advanced for you right now.
Don't even try to get the girl's number. Just make some small talk with girls you happen to run into. "What are you going to order?" "Wow, looks like you bought one of everything in the store!" "Hey, is X any good?" "Wow, that's an awesome coat." Whatever.
Just think of something that is completely normal and natural to the situation. Don't ask for her number. Just get used to talking to people you don't know and you will realize how much easier it is than you think!!
Man, I've been going in since the age of 16... I never had gotten rid of that anxiety and still carry it today after having so much success... My Personal Theory on this is "Fugh it" because if you never approach it's a missed opportunity for you then thinking of the possibities of what could've been... So if I at least gave it a shot a can't say I didn't try.