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    Default Why can't compliment help us get a girl?

    In "How to win friends and influence people",Dale Carnegie said" Lavish in your praise." I want to know why compliments can't help us get a girl? When you compliment a girl, she will be happy, and since you make her happy, she will like you. Doesn't this logic make sense?

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    Default Re: Why can't compliment help us get a girl?

    It's very simple in fact: a hot girl has been complimented about a dozen of times when she's out and everytime another guy does it she feels bored and probably heard it a million times. It's also a sign of neediness when you compliment too early on a girl because it shows you're only interested in one thing and we all know what that is.

    This also shows you're too easy, girls want a guy who's a challenge (hence the reason they go for bad guys).

    You can compliment a girl in the later stages of meeting her after you've been teasing her and showing your high value because then it will come off as genuine rather than being another guy who went up to a girl saying "omg you're so hot, can i get you a drink".
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    Default Re: Why can't compliment help us get a girl?

    Complimenting a woman is possible but always has to be done from an alpha position. Especially during night game.

    During the day you can just speak out whatever compliment is on your mind. Just spit it out while maintaining eye contact and don't make a big deal out of it - it'll be appreciated. Especially when you also speak your mind when you don't like something about her because it makes a compliment far more genuine and valuable. Also, if you think women receive a lot of compliments from guys during their daily lives: who REALLY compliments a beautiful woman during the day? I bet you can't think of one or two guys.

    During the night women do indeed get approximately 3252 compliments a night. So make yourself stand out. For example, here's what I did last time: I walked up to a girl from behind, turned her around with my hand guiding her shoulder (I know, indirect guys, don't go from behind, but this is part of Bad boy's technique ) and said:

    Me: 'Hi, you look very beautiful' (or whatever the hell I said, I can't remember exactly)

    Her: 'Thank you'

    Me: 'I'm Virgil'

    Her: 'I'm *whoever*'

    Me: 'Listen, I'm not here to talk to you or dance with you. All I want to do is kiss you once'.

    Her, with the biggest smile I have ever been rejected with: 'No, thanks'.

    She then kept looking at me. Even though I didn't get the opportunity to walk back at her to confront her with that, she kept looking at me because I stood out. I did something none of the other guys did, which made the compliment work.

    Hope this helped. Good luck, bro!


    P.S.: That quote sounds like absolute crap. It said she'll like you, but it most likely means as a friend, because making a woman feel happy doesn't mean she wants to get involved in a romantic relationship with you.

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    Default Re: Why can't compliment help us get a girl?

    TheManSohan just said it in a nutshell. We don't compliment because it's too high of a risk that it will not come across as genuine. When you do finally compliment her it has to be about her as a person. You can call her beautiful after you sleep with her lol. :P
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    Default Re: Why can't compliment help us get a girl?

    Quote Originally Posted by BatMan View Post
    You can call her beautiful after you sleep with her lol. :P
    hahahaha only if shes good, if it was average tell her she's... cute ; )

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    Default Re: Why can't compliment help us get a girl?

    "How to Win Friends" is a good book for building friendships, but in dating it will get you into the friendzone fast. If you do compliment her make sure you either throw a neg befoere it or hold a baller frame like Virgil describes
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    Default Re: Why can't compliment help us get a girl?

    You should compliment her due to who she is, not about how she looks. Exceptions can be comments about eyes, since they are deeper, more appreciated compliments. Anyways, you need to compliment her when you qualify her. Just don't come as "You're amazing, i love everything about you" when you guys first meet or you will be perceived as easy, and she will value you less.

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    Default Re: Why can't compliment help us get a girl?

    Even moderate girls get compliments so often. Imagine hot girls. It's so unoriginal it immediately burns you off the list. You can learn this the hard way if you want to keep whining

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    Default Re: Why can't compliment help us get a girl?

    Everyone compliments her, specially if she's a hot girl, but when you do something different (throwing a neg at her for example) then you are placed in a different spot of her psyche, you are instantly different at her eyes therefore you have a shot

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    Default Re: Why can't compliment help us get a girl?

    What you can also do is compliment like your above them as a mentor. You compliment not as a sign you like them but almost like you are trying to raise their self esteem (that hits them with a subliminal neg). This works well with younger women obviously when you're an older guy. Like Virgil said it's as long as you come from an alpha angle. I was saying these compliments with absolutely authority almost like a wise professor - maybe it taps into the mature guy/daddy/hero thing. They are vulnerable young women and I position myself as the worldly wise guy. You can really say whatever you want if you have the confidence and right frame and calibration. Not complimenting a HB8-10 on beauty is fairly obvious. Usually if I compliment them it will be when they show me something...like they tell me a story about something they have done or send me a picture of something they are up to etc. I avoid discussing their looks altogther and concentrate on making them laugh.


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