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Thread: I came off Needy. . .. help

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    Default I came off Needy. . .. help

    So I went out on a first date with this girl. We had great chemistry and she even took me back to her house at the end of the night to have sex. Didn't hear much from her the next day (Thanksgiving) then on Friday I texted "hey I'm going to a coworkers birthday this weekend. Her friend is going to be there who I've gone a few dates with. I need to know where we stand before I get into this"
    I didn't realize what I just sent and she basically made a point that it was ONE date and that she is not a clingy person and doesn't like people who are. We had a brief conversation with basically me salvaging the mistake I just made. She said I needed to take steps back if I don't want this to be a one night stand.
    So maybe I haven't farked this up beyond repair. Im not a needy or clingy person at all. I've never asked a girl before "where we stand" or anything even close to that sh1t. I've always been the guy who plays it cool and have no idea why I said this or what came over me.
    I've maintained no contact all weekend to take a deep breath and give some space. I was thinking of texting her tomorrow something like "I keep getting off on the wrong foot with you...." (second time I've said something stupid. The first wasn't nearly this bad and came off more alpha) and asking her to coffee or something small. Just completely blowing past the fact that I just asked her where we stood after one date and not bringing it up.
    I really like this girl and we have a lot in common (both huge sci fi nerds) I seriously don't want to fark this up. If she gets to know me better, she will realize I'm not as much of a pussy as I may have come off as. Please help. I would appreciate any advice.

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    Default Re: I came off Needy. . .. help

    I would not mention it at all tbh mate, you'll only make it worst, carry on as normal and just don't bring it up, and make sure when you see her again you leave an impression that will override this mistake if ya get me

    Linking x

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    Default Re: I came off Needy. . .. help

    Quote Originally Posted by Ron Mexico View Post
    So I went out on a first date with this girl. We had great chemistry and she even took me back to her house at the end of the night to have sex. Didn't hear much from her the next day (Thanksgiving) then on Friday I texted "hey I'm going to a coworkers birthday this weekend. Her friend is going to be there who I've gone a few dates with. I need to know where we stand before I get into this"
    I didn't realize what I just sent and she basically made a point that it was ONE date and that she is not a clingy person and doesn't like people who are. We had a brief conversation with basically me salvaging the mistake I just made. She said I needed to take steps back if I don't want this to be a one night stand.
    So maybe I haven't farked this up beyond repair. Im not a needy or clingy person at all. I've never asked a girl before "where we stand" or anything even close to that sh1t. I've always been the guy who plays it cool and have no idea why I said this or what came over me.
    I've maintained no contact all weekend to take a deep breath and give some space. I was thinking of texting her tomorrow something like "I keep getting off on the wrong foot with you...." (second time I've said something stupid. The first wasn't nearly this bad and came off more alpha) and asking her to coffee or something small. Just completely blowing past the fact that I just asked her where we stood after one date and not bringing it up.
    I really like this girl and we have a lot in common (both huge sci fi nerds) I seriously don't want to fark this up. If she gets to know me better, she will realize I'm not as much of a pussy as I may have come off as. Please help. I would appreciate any advice.

    Do to mention that. Say something funny that will make her forget what you said and regain . the contact (this is gold!)

    Or you can just be frank saying '' I really like you and would love to get know you better''(gold again)

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    Default Re: I came off Needy. . .. help

    i dont want to sound idiot but just sleep with her... It releases confindence hormones on her and she will forget everything. If needed, run attration again and dont make too much rapport

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    Default Re: I came off Needy. . .. help

    Thanks for the advice. I appreciate it. Well I plan on sleeping with her. That always seems to fix things. Its just a matter of getting there again. I'm going to ignore what I said and try to reestablish a connection, make her laugh, etc and get a second date. I'll let ya'll know how it goes

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    Default Re: I came off Needy. . .. help

    forget about it and give yourself a break.

    just keep on meeting women and you will automatically evolve into a non needy guy.

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    Default Re: I came off Needy. . .. help

    Linking's on the money here (+30)


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