So I went out on a first date with this girl. We had great chemistry and she even took me back to her house at the end of the night to have sex. Didn't hear much from her the next day (Thanksgiving) then on Friday I texted "hey I'm going to a coworkers birthday this weekend. Her friend is going to be there who I've gone a few dates with. I need to know where we stand before I get into this"
I didn't realize what I just sent and she basically made a point that it was ONE date and that she is not a clingy person and doesn't like people who are. We had a brief conversation with basically me salvaging the mistake I just made. She said I needed to take steps back if I don't want this to be a one night stand.
So maybe I haven't farked this up beyond repair. Im not a needy or clingy person at all. I've never asked a girl before "where we stand" or anything even close to that sh1t. I've always been the guy who plays it cool and have no idea why I said this or what came over me.
I've maintained no contact all weekend to take a deep breath and give some space. I was thinking of texting her tomorrow something like "I keep getting off on the wrong foot with you...." (second time I've said something stupid. The first wasn't nearly this bad and came off more alpha) and asking her to coffee or something small. Just completely blowing past the fact that I just asked her where we stood after one date and not bringing it up.
I really like this girl and we have a lot in common (both huge sci fi nerds) I seriously don't want to fark this up. If she gets to know me better, she will realize I'm not as much of a pussy as I may have come off as. Please help. I would appreciate any advice.