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    Default The Ambiguous Raincheck

    So I've been interested in a neighbor of mine have spent some time with her in the past few weeks. Somewhat of a road block is that I live with three others, as does she (she lives in the flat above me) and most time spent together has been in a group setting. I was however able to get her number, and had sent a few casual but flirtatious texts to her. One morning I texted her telling her to join me for breakfast at nice cafe in the neighborhood, to which she replied, "Oh man, I wish I could, I wanna see what the hype is about buy my friend and I are going to yoga at [said] Park. Rain check?" I replied "Deal." (maybe not the best response, but I'm not great at this.

    About half a week later I asked her if she had dinner plans on a certain night, and she replied, "Ah yeah unfortunately I have to work late then am meeting up with a friend in [suburb]. Now I owe you two rain checks."

    Normally two rainchecks would seem like avoidance, and I would move on, but we have since hung out, again in a group setting, and there were good signs. We were at a bar, and the two of us spoke to each other alone for an hour or so while our roommates played pool, then we played erotic photo hunt, and there was PDA--she put her hands on my shoulder and leaned against me and then stood in between my legs for a time while playing, we always sat next to each other slightly touching, etc.

    On Saturday I asked her, "So how do I cash in on these rainchecks?" She acted as though she was thinking and said, "hmm, that's a good question." I said, "I can't have three, that'd be awkward," and it was kind of left at that.

    I haven't followed up since as I don't want to sound desperate but feel like this could still go somewhere. Am I misreading signals and should let this go, or continue to pursue? If so, how should I pursue her?

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    Default Re: The Ambiguous Raincheck

    Okay my take is a as follows:

    She is definitely interested in one way or another. I think you should stop asking her out and you should take control the next time you hang out in a group. I mean you had her to yourself (which is great) you need to kino escalate that (which you did) and continue to maintain your alpha status. Keep cocky/funny and lots of kino. I think you should k-close her. Do not ask her again because it will come off as too needy. Work on her when you are all out again.

    Good luck!

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    Default Re: The Ambiguous Raincheck

    When you think of asking if she wants to do something, STOP. Dont do it. Instead, Turn it into a command.

    Ex. How can i cash those rain checks? NO

    "Hey, u owe me two rainchecks. I got a great idea... why dont u take me out to dinner just the two of us (or some other activity she would find romantic)."

    The point is... u must control. She owes u. She must pay for your time. Be fun with it but i strongly suggest you make sure u get her to comply... dont look to her for help on how to repay u.
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    Default Re: The Ambiguous Raincheck

    In response to Lockdown, should I wait a certain amount of time to reach out to her, or just wait till I see her in a group setting again?

    Outside of that, I think I'll just kino escalate like Fuser says.

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    Default Re: The Ambiguous Raincheck

    I think you should wait a little bit man, just so she sees she's not your only one. Others might disagree, but let me ask you, how often do you hang out with her as a group?

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    Default Re: The Ambiguous Raincheck

    I pretty much see her on weekends as her two male roommates will come down and then we'll all converge. Initially I was wondering if I should wait mid to late week to hit her up via text and try and "cash in" on rain checks but wasn't sure if this would still sound too needy. Not sure if I should just wait till we see each other again.

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    Default Re: The Ambiguous Raincheck

    Well, does she ever initiate text conversations with you? In my opinion at this point you will come off as too needy. The attraction is there but you want to keep DHV. She has to know that she's not your only option and that more girls are ready to fill her spot. So I think asking a 3rd time will not send her that idea.

    What you could do is if SHE DOESNT start text convos with you, just open her midweek about something unrelated. Flirt a little but don't mention the hanging out part. See if she brings it up...

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    Default Re: The Ambiguous Raincheck

    Dont go to the usual hangout this weekend. Make other plans (and be excited about them. Dont treat it like'i gotta go do something) even if its just a family thing. She is used to seeing u at certain times. Seeing u there yet again is EXPECTED. Dont be predictable!

    After like two days after the usual hang out date, text her and try the raincheck cash in idea
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