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Thread: Trying too hard?? People not very friendly?

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    Default Trying too hard?? People not very friendly?

    I just start working on my game and approaching..

    and i get the feeling that when conversing with a girl that I'm trying too hard and that she can kinda tell I'm trying too hard..


    Also another thing I've noticed is that if you randomly approached strangers you don't know most people do not have a pleasant response to it and really not friendly..


    I approached a few girls today and spoke to them and a lot of them really had just bad vibes/energy/ etc..


    Im really trying hard not to give a fuck; but man ppl just suck?


    Thoughts/opinions help?

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    Default Re: Trying too hard?? People not very friendly?

    You are doing great man. Don't let anyone bring you down. At least you've had the courage to take action and approach. Learn from your interactions and you will get better. Trust me, girls will seem friendlier in a couple of weeks.

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    Default Re: Trying too hard?? People not very friendly?

    Yeah today was my breakthrough; today is the day i know my life will be forever changed and that this stuff will actually work!


    It is the first day i went out and approached; out of 10 girls i number closed 4; even had a 2 hr conversation with one girl who had a boyfriend..


    THe thing is I'm a very sensitive person in general; so when someone doesn't respond well or like me i sometimes try to figure out if its something I'm doing wrong;

    but then i realized its probably all on them;


    How do you get past those discouraging encounters with females in the beginning that are a real struggle to deal with;


    Like this one girl i opened her asked if i could sit down she said yes then just kept typing away at her computer the whole time i was trying to speak to her.. So i got up left approached a girl in the table across and opened her and had a great time lol

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    Default Re: Trying too hard?? People not very friendly?

    You answered your own question, they HAVE TO QUALIFY THEMSELVES TO YOU. If you don't like what you see, on to the next one dude.

    4 Number closes? Good job man. Just keep at it. That's all there is to say.

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    Default Re: Trying too hard?? People not very friendly?

    So what if they just don't qualify themselves to me? They are just not interested and there was nothing i could've done different?

    I feel like even if i DHV to a girl maybe she really is just not interested at all?

    I feel like in a lot of interactions and things i am doing ALOT of talking also..

    Thanks so much for help

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    Default Re: Trying too hard?? People not very friendly?

    people pick up your general "vibe" immediately.

    it's like a gut feeling for who you are.

    if you aren't getting good responses, work on your overall attitude.

    are you a positive or negative person?

    are you happy?

    do you have goals?

    are you a man of action?

    do you know how to have fun?

    never blame people for how they are acting toward you.

    be the cause, not an effect.

    if you are getting bad responses, you can easily turn that around once you know how to be the "CAUSE" in interactions.

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    Default Re: Trying too hard?? People not very friendly?

    Big up dude, keep it up!

    You just need to remember that a conversation is a two way thing. If they are not willing to put the energy into adding value to the conversation and seem unresponsive, then it's not worth it - move on.

    I'm also sensitive like you, and use to get worried if I was the problem. Then through a lot of reading and development, I realised that I'm never fully responsible for a poor interaction.

    I learnt a cool technique where you add a time constraint when approaching and opening someone you've never met, they will feel relieved because they know there is an end to the interaction (not to say you are weird or creepy). It just makes them feel at ease. See how it works.


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