Hey, so it all began like 5 weeks or so ago when I met this girl at a restaurant with a couple of friends of mine and we all had fun and this particular girl invited me and my other friends all to her own party she was having next week. By this time I was already attracted to her. Anyway before we went to her party the next week me and one of my friends saw her and her friends this week before the party and when we were around each other she kept touching my jumper and pulling dog hair off it which was on there from a friends dog and was complimenting my clothes and hair etc.. That night when I went to go home and was about to leave she ran up to me and hugged me and made me promise I visit her party that weekend.
So later that week I went to her party and she was kind of aloof half the night until the night except right before I left when she came up and started hugging me and not wanting me to leave and being really affectionate but I had to leave so we were both joking around about it and other things and eventually I left her party leading her out the door with my arm around her shoulders and hers around mine. After this night I decided how much I liked her and was going to ask her out and saw her with no boyfriend that night so assumed she was single too and my friends told me that I had a chance!
Then about a week or so passed and I hadn't seen her or her other friends so a friend of mine tired messaged her trying to get her come hang around with us a group kind of thing, but she flaked and said she was tired. I then decided to grab her number off my friend seeing as me and her didn't exchange numbers already because she was drunk at the party and I was sober and it seemed weird to ask things like that at the time and somehow it just seemed like we were going to see each other soon so getting numbers didn't seem that pressing and I was waiting to see her next to ask her out and get her number anyway. But anyway I got her number off my friend and my friend told her I had her number which she was happy about but seeing as she was not feeling well and I hadn't seen her I waited until about 3-4 days later then sent her a message to see if her and her friends and all wanted to catch up. After I sent her the first message she was very happy to hear from me and responded she wasn't going out tonight but wanted to catch up soon! So I left it for that night and ended up texting her the next night after asking "When are we going to catch up?" kinda being demanding and insisting in a friendly,flirty way. To which she replied "Whenever I am free all week! ". So I invited her out Monday night that week but she was tired that night, then I waited until Wednesday and asked her again but she said she was still "tired" in the text so I got a little pissed off and started ignoring her but not before sending her a kind " Hope you feel better" or something to that affect, I was polite about it but kinda pissed and also was not going to keep initaiting conversation and wanted to wait for her to. On Firday morning she responded and sent me a message asking to hang out with me on Friday but I was busy and could not get there on time. So I did go meet up with her and with one of my friends but I was late which she knew as I told her I might be and things where weird, she was very quiet at first. But then at the end of the night she came right up to me and hugged me tightly and said she wanted for me and her to catch up in the week and do something fun. I agreed with her and we both went our seperate ways that night.
I then waited 3 days until Monday to see what she was doing. I texted her and me and some friends all caught up with each other at a comedy show, it was brief though. But she was still really happy to see me and was hugging me and stuff. However she left early with some Gay friend she had with her or at least people told me he was Gay ( I got worried it was a BF). When I realised she left I texted her asking when we where going to catch up again properly and she did not respond until the next morning as it was late but she responded saying "when the weather isn't so hot!". Now it is summer over here but for some reason when I got this message I got really annoyed and felt like she was being evasive. I mean every time she sees me she acts really happy and hugs me and says she wants to catch up.
But every time we go to organize something over text messages she seems to become nervous or evasive and makes little jokes and will never want to make an actual time or day it's always vague. So I called her out on her texts and asked her if she really wanted to hang out or was she just making excuses. It felt a bit harsh doing it but I was getting frustrated and starting to feel played and wanted to figure out the story. After asking her if she really wanted to hang out or was just making excuses, she sent a text message back apologizing say she really,truly wants to meet up and do something with me and she is sorry for making excuses. I responded by saying "Ok ok, I still want to hang out with you too" to which she responded " Good! ".
Anyway since all this has happened we made a date last Thursday but she blew me off saying she had some problem with her dog being poisoned and needed to take him to the vet in an emergency. I got kinda pissed of with her for doing that and told her off a bit, then she didn't reply the next day until Saturday but said she was really sorry and felt awful for doing it and wanted to reschedule for Sunday.
But at the time I was too annoyed with her for blowing me off on Thursday so I didn't reply. I then saw her best friend on Saturday night and she told me that this girl was telling the truth about her sick dog and was upset and this girl was also suffering depression too ( which the girl previously told me). So I sent her a message saying I hope she was ok and if she wants to catch up or reschedule to let me know.
But she did not reply to that and I'm not sure if it was because she wasn't well or was not responding me for some other reason. So I sent her message today telling her " not to become a a stranger" and asking if she was ok and if she wanted to catch up" to which she quickly replied she is feeling better and talked about herself a bit and also said she wants to catch up. I replied to that wishing her well and sort of Humanising with her to try and make her feel comfortable as she has been sick with depression and I want to be someone she cane speak with me but she stopped responding after that last text I sent. Also worth noting is she does alway add "xxxx" kisses at the end of messages to me which makes it more confusing
Now her friend gave me the impression this girl is interested but is just going through personal problems so I don't know if it's that or she is pissed off and/or lost interest?
She is younger than me so it could explain a bit. I am used to dating girls my own age and they are easier to talk with. I just want to know if she has flaked multiple times and ignored a couple of message, does that mean she has lost interest even though she has given me plenty of signs such as touching, previously asking to catch up and her friends telling me she was keen to see me.
Anyway my question is to finally boil it down, does this girl have high enough interest in me and is just being nervous and shy or does it seem like she is playing games for attention or already has a boyfriend and is stringing me along. Or is she interested in me as friends and trying to blow me off gently as not to lose my friendship or scared I will become her enemy if she rejects me or something or god knows what? it is so confusing. I really like this girl and am pretty sure she likes me too but need to know if I should just handle her differently if she is nervous or get rid of her if she is playing games and attention seeking. Is it is screwed? or is there some kind of way I can text her to show her I am interested without seeming creepy or alienate her and basically finally get her out?? Thanks guys - Sam