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Thread: So, I just got friendzoned?

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    Default So, I just got friendzoned?

    Hello guys,
    This is my first post so go easy on me. I met this girl last September at my university. I got her fb contact and phone number in a short time and we talked a little on fb, nothing really serious or anything. Then we stopped for a while and she contacted me about two weeks ago to have a dinner with some common friends that we have. At dinner we have a good time and we sit together and accidentally touch each other, and I notice she stares at me some times. Then next week I ask her to come shopping for Christmas gifts cause I need a female advice and she's like "I don't really like shopping but if you need an advice I'll come".

    So we spend a few hours together and I try to kinoescalate her putting my arm around her weist end touching her casually. We stop for a coffee, Then we go shooting some pool and while we are playing she hints that she's not good at the game but her hands are better for "other things". I smile but I don't give too much importance to this. We head to my place and we meet some friends on the way and we decide to have another dinner. Same as the first time.

    At the end I ask her if she needs someone to bike home with her cause she lives far and it's late night. She says no, but is clearly a bit embarrassed, because all our friends were outside the door waiting for her to leave. We hug and kiss on the cheek and that's that.

    We text and she says that she had fun and we should have another coffee together, which leads to today. We meet after lunch and go for a coffee. We touch our hands every now and then. After I bring her go a park where they have also some animals for the kids to pet and stuff like that. So we hang out there for a while, she laughs at my jokes and we keep hugging and touching.

    On our way back, I try to take her hand but she says "Don't do this". I reply something like "Do what" and then she doesn't answer. I try to keep it cool and keep talking about bullsh1t and we got to my place. She is about to leave and I give her a gift (a small chocolate letter) but she tells me she wants to open at home and blabla, I say yeah whatever.

    She comes closer and I put my hand on her face, gently and she says don't do it but doesn't really make any resistance. I try to kiss her but she turns her face and gives me a speech about how she likes me but she is embarrassed because we have common friend s and of something goes wrong between us it'll be awkward and bullsh1t. I say ok and then we hug for like 5 minutes and I try yo kiss her again, and we quickly kiss on the lips (no tongue) but then she backs off and leave And see you soon.
    Later I go to uni and start talking to random strangers with a friends and she texts me saying "thanks for the gift. It's very cute, I hope you are not mad,I like you and I like being with you, I am just not sure if it's a good idea". I wait a few hours (cause I was busy doing other stuff) and I replied "it's fine. I'm glad you enjoyed the gift. Have a good night". So I think I got friend zoned here? What should I do? Sorry for the gigantic wall of text.

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    Default Re: So, I just got friendzoned?

    Yea, next time space out your post better. Seperating paragraphs and ideas helps alot.

    You already accepted her frame, so its kinda difficult, but this has all my advice on your situation

    http://www.puaforums.com/how-pick-up...iend-zone.html
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    Default Re: So, I just got friendzoned?

    you can also say that you want more from her and you are willing to walk away. She will see that you are a risk to take

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    Default Re: So, I just got friendzoned?

    Quote Originally Posted by bmr_id View Post
    you can also say that you want more from her and you are willing to walk away. She will see that you are a risk to take
    I thought about it, but doesn't that come off as too needy? Too outcome dependent?

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    Default Re: So, I just got friendzoned?

    too needy is waiting till she gives you some leftovers. People, like animals, only give value to something that they dont have. Its an evolutionary thing we have in our brains

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    Default Re: So, I just got friendzoned?

    Quote Originally Posted by bmr_id View Post
    too needy is waiting till she gives you some leftovers. People, like animals, only give value to something that they dont have. Its an evolutionary thing we have in our brains
    So, should I just disengage and wait for her to contact me and tell her that I want more or I'm done with it? Or should I make the first move here?

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    Default Re: So, I just got friendzoned?

    in my personal life, i would choose call her and tell her that tou want more or youll give up. If you are friwndzoned and you make your first move without correcting what she thinks of you, its not a great move

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    Default Re: So, I just got friendzoned?

    So we hang out there for a while, she laughs at my jokes and we keep hugging and touching.

    this was the perfect time to ask her if she's a good kisser and go for the proper makeout not pecks

    She comes closer and I put my hand on her face, gently and she says don't do it but doesn't really make any resistance. I try to kiss her but she turns her face and gives me a speech about how she likes me but she is embarrassed because we have common friend s and of something goes wrong between us it'll be awkward and bullsh1t. I say ok and then we hug for like 5 minutes and I try yo kiss her again, and we quickly kiss on the lips (no tongue) but then she backs off and leave And see you soon.

    did you actually feel "ok" with that?

    and I replied "it's fine. I'm glad you enjoyed the gift. Have a good night".

    same as the previous

    I personally don't think your friendzoned but as RB pointed out you've accept her frame, you've got alot of work to do to fix it, she's still deciding on you even though you have "written" confirmation but actions speak louder than words

    more kino (not hugging for 5minutes --> other playful stuff to amplify her feelings for you )

    @BMR --
    you can also say that you want more from her and you are willing to walk away. She will see that you are a risk to take
    it's more powerful to show her that you have other options, than stating it verbal, that comes across as arrogant (at least in my eyes) but you have the right idea (y)

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    Default Re: So, I just got friendzoned?

    nice point hyp. Post facebook photos of you with other girls close to you, maybe making kino. That will turn on her preselection switch

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    Cool Re: So, I just got friendzoned?

    ^ that will definitely work, even if you organise it with your friend (women friends) and do some stupid sh1t, there is this one pic where my mates gf was facing him and she was on his left side and he just had his hand on her face haha now that tells alot :P


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