A HB 10, divorced, aged 32,…with I guess big issues. Went with a couple of dates with her, had sex and now she is being kind of flaky. She was really working on me (talking about a relationship and even marriage) and I was telling her that is way too fast and that it would be at my pace or not at all. Everything was ok till this her ex showed up at her place and threatened her… would be another story. Supposedly she cleared things up with him, but somehow since then we are not progressing anywhere.
It seems to me that being a bad ass is the turn on for her. She did say something along the lines that her ex has something that I do not have and made a joke that if I were abusive it would turn her on!
Anyway Last time we met and went out clubbing I took a female friend (she came with her boyfriend and another male friend) along to judge the situation. To this female friend it seems that this girl and I are fighting for who is in control. I get sh1t tests from her constantly and I even point them out to her.
To sum up the situation she told me that to women I must be beautiful (don’t know why she didn’t use the word handsome) and that she is a cold bitch (her words, but I totally agree with them). She said I have all the positive traits that she is looking for in a man (confidence, ambition) just like her ex has, without the negative traits of him being an asshole (her words not mine), and that she likes me, but isn’t falling in love with me and does not know why.
We did talk about a problem that we have: she want for me to chase her whilst I told her that girls chase me and not the other way round. She is also a person that does not open up and when I try to get to her inner self she turns into a closed hopeless little girl that goes quiet, as she might say too much about herself.
In my opinion she seems to be attracted to guys that treat her badly. She said that she creates situations where she gets into deep sh1t and has fun out of the thrill that she gets from such situations.
When we were getting to know each other everything was going smoothly and now it seems to me that we are fighting for who would control a potential relationship without having feelings for each other.
What works on her is DHV,
negs work from time to time (like hit and miss… she does have a moody personality),
jealousy works really well (she says that I have too many female friends),
cocky and funny does not work (I guess she has no sense of humor),
My question is how do I get her chasing me? Do I need to send her on an emotional rollercoaster, if so, how?
Being abusive to her like her ex is not an option as I am not such a person and will never be!
In my opinion she is not relationship material. Many of you would tell me that I should not waste my time, but we are here to learn and gain new experiences.
Any tips would be much appreciated!