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Thread: Texting her after an awkward situation

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    Default Texting her after an awkward situation

    OK, so there's this hb9 I've known for about two months now. she's really shy, and I listened to one of the audio things on here about how to get her attraction. One of them was for her to do something for me, so today I had her print a paper. Now, these last few weeks I've passed her in the hall quite frequently and not said anything, occasionally made eye contact, on even rarer occasion said hi and smiled. I'm wondering if she doesn't look at me because she is either a) shy or b) creeped out because I see her so much. Anyway when she printed it and brought it (it was somewhat of an ordeal to get her to do it) she was in and out really fast and barely said anything or gave me time to say anything. She kind of was looking down and was hesitant to make eye contact. Later that day I saw her again in the stairs and made eye contact but said nothing. I then texted her saying thank you again. I want to text her tonight to set up something for Saturday b/c we are in a club together that is going out to do something then in groups of 4-5 and I want to be in her group, but I'm not sure if she thinks I'm weird or if she is just shy. So here's what I'm asking for:

    1. Is she creeped out or just shy?
    2. Good openers/tips on texting her?
    3. Should I ask her to be in my group Saturday?
    4. Is it really bad what happens with me seeing her all the time but not doing anything about it?
    5. Interpret what happened with printing the paper thing.

    Btw, I text her every 3-4 days, it's kind of hard to get her out of her shell. When I talked to her in person last (about 6 weeks ago, we hardly ever see each other and I feel if I asked her to that would be odd, so that's why I want to make use of this Saturday) the convo flowed really nicely and I learned a lot about her and vice versa. She's a really nice girl, just shy, great personality, really attractive, but she's never had a boyfriend before and I feel like she just needs to be eased out of that shell. I'm just not sure if she's creeped or just shy that's all. Thanks for the help guys. And if you're still reading, props to you!

    and if you guys could reply to this as soon as you can (like 30 mins) that would be awesome!

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    Default Re: Texting her after an awkward situation

    Hang on, something doesn't jive here.
    I'm sorry, but I'm getting the impression this is completely fabricated.

    Here's why: (I'll be sure to highlight what makes me question this)

    You said, "...so today I had her print a paper. Now, these last few weeks I've passed her in the hall quite frequently and not said anything, occasionally made eye contact, on even rarer occasion said hi and smiled. I'm wondering if she doesn't look at me because she is either a) shy or b) creeped out because I see her so much.

    Anyway when she printed it and brought it (it was somewhat of an ordeal to get her to do it) she was in and out really fast and barely said anything or gave me time to say anything. She kind of was looking down and was hesitant to make eye contact. Later that day I saw her again in the stairs and made eye contact but said nothing. I then texted her saying thank you again. I want to text her tonight to Set up something for Saturday...."


    You started out saying this happened today.... but in the next "breath" (so to speak) you say "Later that day..."

    Maybe I'm just a little too detail oriented...?
    BUT... that's how I decide what's worthwhile & what's not... I pay attention.

    If I'm mistaken, then please accept my apology.
    But due to the recent influx of trolls & spammers lately, (*ahem-pua_txt) I'm beginning to see a lot of ridiculously fake posts.


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    Default Re: Texting her after an awkward situation

    To start off it was kind of uncomfortable to even finish reading this cus there's a lot you should've done different. U should never make a moment awkward by not talking or even making eye contact with her would definitely do that. You should smile at her everytine and wave maybe start a convo and make plans flirt use kino everytine you see. Don't be thinking so much about what to do just do it I hope this helps homie good luck

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    Default Re: Texting her after an awkward situation

    Sorry T-Mal for messing up some of the wording, but it's completely legit. And actually, I just finished up texting her, could you do a convo eval?

    me: hey guess what?
    her: what?
    me: I got my paper back already and I got an A. If it hadn't been for you, I would have gotten an F. How can I make it up to you?
    her: you don't have to
    me: Are you sure? I feel like I have to do something b/c it was so nice of you. I could buy you a coke or something if you want...
    her: no you really don't need to! I can't really talk now though b/c my phone's dying
    me: wow not many people would have said that, that's really nice! But you think I'm weird don't you? <said this because she often makes excuses to end convos, this one was very easily able to be false>
    her: no! I just literally have 2% left and I'm not home to charge it
    me: no I believe you! Sorry that was my friend I'm studying with. We can talk on Saturday if you want, you should be in my group so I have some that knows what they're doing. I'll talk to you later
    me: (1 min later as an afterthought) let me know if you want to do that sometime between now and then (upon later thought I could have seemed less needy)

    alright hit me with everything - good, bad, and indifferent. Response times were 2-3 mins each, it went fairly quick.

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    Default Re: Texting her after an awkward situation

    Dude you come across as totally AFC, sorry. I think there is no chance anywhere here. Move on

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    Default Re: Texting her after an awkward situation

    I don't think there's a need for insults. We're all here to learn. And thankfully we have found these dating techniques to improve ourselves. We are lucky to help each other out. And if someone is just starting out well we've all been there. Good luck to y'all ;p

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    Default Re: Texting her after an awkward situation

    Hey Wheels,
    I'll breakdown the text convo & point out where you're messing up.


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    me: hey guess what?
    her: what?

    me: I got my paper back already and I got an A. If it hadn't been for you, I would have gotten an F. How can I make it up to you?

    her: you don't have to

    me: Are you sure? I feel like I have to do something b/c it was so nice of you. I could buy you a coke or something if you want...

    her: no you really don't need to! I can't really talk now though b/c my phone's dying

    me: wow not many people would have said that, that's really nice! But you think I'm weird don't you?

    her: no! I just literally have 2% left and I'm not home to charge it

    me: no I believe you! Sorry that was my friend I'm studying with. We can talk on Saturday if you want, you should be in my group so I have some that knows what they're doing. I'll talk to you later

    me: (1 min later as an afterthought) let me know if you want to do that sometime between now and then (upon later thought I could have seemed less needy)

    -----------------------------------------------------


    What's happening is you're trying to qualify yourself to her, or begging for attention & approval. (There's no expression of confidence at all.)

    Everything is basically coming across like: "please pay attention me... I'll do whatever you want.... if you'll let me...."

    It does make you look needy & clingy.... And probably makes her think you'll "smother" her, by not giving her any space.

    Here's how you could have improved your exchange:



    me: hey guess what?

    her: what?

    me: You freakin rock! With your assistance I aced my paper! Thank you. That deserves a Coke!!

    her: you don't have to

    me: I KNOW I don't have to, silly girl!! But seriously, who doesn't love a good cold beverage?

    her: no you really don't need to! I can't really talk now though b/c my phone's dying

    me: Dang! Then quit texting me & save your battery in case you have an emergency! I'll holla @ ya later. And you can buy ME a Coke this Saturday. Peace out girl scout!


    DONE!! - End of interaction for now.

    It still gets your original point across; but with confidence & humor... as well as being decisive & right to the point.



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