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Thread: Can't seem to keep eye contact..

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    Default Can't seem to keep eye contact..

    It seems every time I'm walking on the sidewalk or outside and I see a attractive girl, I can't help but shy away once I make eye contact. It's like I'm embarrassed or can't look her in the eye from fear of seeming like a creep. I don't know, maybe subconsciously I feel I'm not worthy of looking at beautiful women, who knows. But I need to learn proper eye contact and how long to hold it. Any suggestions?

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    Default Re: Can't seem to keep eye contact..

    Don't look at them mate, talk to them!!!

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    Default Re: Can't seem to keep eye contact..

    intimacy issues? dont sweat it bro, i had a hard time with it at first, but after you work on it for a while it gets easier. if it feels like you arent good enough to look at a beautiful girl, seriously knock it off. girls look pretty for a reason. they want to be looked at. and from this point onward, in the words of cody, "you are the man." tell yourself that, and believe it yourself.
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    Default Re: Can't seem to keep eye contact..

    I've had this same problem, all my life it seems. I can't even keep eye contact with family members. But lately I've been working at this very slowly, and it seems to be working. What I started doing is, I would spend time in front of the mirror staring into my own eyes, discovering the power of my own gaze. This helped me shape my facial expression so that my stare doesn't come off as "creepy" or menacing. Lately, I've been forcing myself to look into people's eyes, during conversation, every chance I get, regardless of who it is: siblings, teachers, store clerks, guy friends. My goal with this exercise is to stare into their eyes anywhere from 3-4 seconds then look away for a brief second (1second) and return my stare. What this has done for me is build confidence in myself and it has made it a simple habit. I'm new at all this myself and I do agree, less staring and more approaching.

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    Default Re: Can't seem to keep eye contact..

    Quote Originally Posted by RavenSword View Post
    It seems every time I'm walking on the sidewalk or outside and I see a attractive girl, I can't help but shy away once I make eye contact. It's like I'm embarrassed or can't look her in the eye from fear of seeming like a creep. I don't know, maybe subconsciously I feel I'm not worthy of looking at beautiful women, who knows. But I need to learn proper eye contact and how long to hold it. Any suggestions?
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    Default Re: Can't seem to keep eye contact..

    Go to the mall... maybe one you dont frequent often. Walk up to random girls (all kinds... old, young, moms, ugly, hot) and look into their eyes. If they are close, say hey or something respectful like good morning. Thats how David Deangelo says u can reduce approach anxiety.

    And as a sidenote, you may think its weird to maintain eye contact but its not. Girls peek at every guy they see in a subtle way. You are merely acknowledging this by looking at them. And it sets u apart from other guys. Its like you understand them.

    And trust me, once u catch some girls looking at u, it becomes more fun. I personally didnt think certain girls would check me out but guess what? EVERY woman checks out EVERY guy she sees lol.
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